09/24/2026
One of the coaches we trained told us he stopped asking students “why.”
During the TRUE Change Coaching Blueprint, we teach coaches that “why” can make people defensive. Even when it isn’t intended as an accusation, a student can hear “Why did you do that?” and start building a case instead of taking time to think.
So we taught him to change the question.
“What does this mean to you?”
“How does this matter in your life?”
Same goal. Completely different conversation.
RayRay Collum is a sophomore at Palm Beach Atlantic University who went through the TRUE Change Coaching Blueprint. That shift wasn’t something he naturally knew how to make. It was a technique he learned, and it’s something that can be taught in an afternoon.
Most people leading conversations with young people were never taught any of this. Not because they don’t care, but because nobody ever sat them down and showed them what one word can do to a conversation.