08/20/2026
Autistic meltdowns…the absolute exhaustion afterwards, the shame felt afterwards, the feeling like you’re broken…all of these things need to be talked about more, sure, but mostly they need to be better understood by non-autistic people. I wish the onus was not put on the autistic person to try and explain their neurology and behavior to someone when they’re already overwhelmed and burnt out.
I hate to be like, “Google is free”, but there really isn’t any excuse for people to not read up on how autism works. Of course you can’t make someone understand if they are entirely unwilling and are committed to ignoring reality, but for people who say they do want to learn…do it!
neurodivergent_insights has great, easy-to-read infographics that explain things like meltdowns vs shutdowns, Autism vs OCD, etc.
The Autistic Self Advocacy Network has plain-language resources that make it very easy to read and understand many aspects of autism and life as an autistic person.
Those are just 2 examples, but the reality is that there is a plethora of learning resources right at our fingertips.
The best rule of thumb for choosing a resource on autism is: if it is written and/or reviewed by people on the autism spectrum, odds are it’s fairly accurate to the lived experience. If it is a peer-reviewed scientific article or resource, then that’s also a good option.
Signed,
Someone who is tired of having meltdowns and then having to explain why they happen…every. single. time.