10/09/2026
Eleven years ago today, these boys became ours forever. 💙
But I remember the moment my heart claimed them long before a judge ever did.
It was Zack’s second birthday. We had planned for him to spend part of his special day with his biological parents. I dressed him in the cutest outfit and told him they were bringing cake and presents. I drove him to the DSS office for their family visit.
They never showed up.
As I walked out of that office, trying to explain to a little boy that we would go home and celebrate, I called Ben. Somewhere in that conversation I said, “They will NOT do this to my boys.”
“My boys.”
I remember the fear that washed over me in that parking lot. I knew something had changed. We had opened our home to be a bridge, to love children while their families worked towards reunification. But somewhere along the way, these two had become our sons in my heart, and I was absolutely terrified of what loving them that much could mean.
And look at us now. Eleven years since adoption day. Two brothers playing football on the same team, and me proudly wearing “Those Are My Boys” on my back.
Today, they wanted to celebrate their adoption day, and Zack told Grandma that October 8th is the most important day of the year.
I think about that boy on his 2nd birthday waiting for a celebration that never happened. Now I get to watch him celebrate the day he became our son.
There is something incredibly beautiful and something incredibly heartbreaking about that. I know our family’s joy exists alongside another families loss. I can grieve the circumstances that made adoption necessary and still be overwhelmingly grateful for the family God built.
Both things can be true.
It’s one of the reasons Lily Pad means so much to me. I’ve been the foster mom walking into a DSS office with a child whose heart I desperately wanted to protect. I’ve loved children without knowing whether I’d get to love them tomorrow.
I know that not every child’s story ends like ours, but every child deserves to feel safe, loved, and valued, no matter what their story holds.
Happy Adoption day to our boys! What a gift it is to be your mom. 💙