10/09/2026
When you’re parenting a child with food allergies, your brain is wired to stay alert — and for good reason: to keep your child safe.
But a highly anxious mind tends to persistently make everything feel urgent and push for certainty and total control as a way to quiet and regulate itself, especially in new situations.
Unfortunately, we can’t always guarantee outcomes, have 100% certainty, or have total control over things. Therefore, part of living with food allergies is building skills to navigate the uncertainty.
Yet, research shows that for parents of kids with food allergy, difficulty tolerating uncertainty is strongly linked to higher anxiety, worry, and stress — even more than allergy severity in some cases (Roberts et al., 2021).
The goal isn’t to silence anxiety — even though that would *feel* better.
It’s to strengthen your “grounded mind” — the part of you that can:
✔ recognize and assess risks
✔ slow urgency urges down to stay present-focused
✔ make thoughtful, “safe enough” decisions
✔ plan, prepare, and build allergy management skills to help you navigate various outcomes including best, worst, and most likely outcomes.
This helps us balance both safety and quality of life when living with food allergies. 💛
Need support with this? I provide telehealth therapy for allergy moms in IL, FL, and OH, and non-therapy educational consultations to those in any state - link in bio.
Or connect with other allergy-informed therapists listed in your state via the Academy of Food Allergy Counseling’s therapist directory (Academy of Food Allergy Counseling (AFAC)) - link in bio.
And check out my book, May Contain Anxiety (published by Hopkins Press) for Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) content and strategies to help navigate the overwhelm and anxiety associated with allergy parenting. 💛