07/04/2026
A great reminder from NeuroWild ♥️👤🧠
https://www.facebook.com/share/1D6CYSZM12/?mibextid=w
I’ve lived a life of compliance.
Many autistic kids learn from a very young age that the point of it all is to please those around you- at any cost.
Many of us give away our comfort, our safety, our authenticity, our self-esteem, and our mental wellbeing. Some of us give away even more.
Teaching any child to disconnect from their internal body signals is, in my opinion, one of the most harmful things that compliance training can do. Because it leaves us without any internal alarm system. We learn to distrust our own intuition. Before too long, our internal voice that is there to keep us safe- goes quiet. And we have to rely on others deciding what IS and ISN’T ok for us.
And when someone, ANYONE, tells us that something is ok- even if it doesn’t FEEL ok for us- we take their word for it. We don’t question it any further.
We just do it. Because that’s what we have been trained to do.
It’s not about our comfort. It’s not about whether something feels right for us. It’s literally about pleasing everyone else.
That is the outcome of compliance training.
And yes, having a kid who does whatever you tell them might make life easier. Especially when they just do the things quickly without question.
Consider. What other things might they be asked to do in this world? As a kid, as a teen, and as an adult?
It is important that they question things.
It’s so important that they critically analyse the situation.
And it’s so important that they tune into their body’s danger signals.
How else will they keep themselves safe?
Em
