09/20/2026
I have to say … this past year has truly moved so many things into perspective for me.
The biggest one is the difference between truly selfless and loving people and selfish and entitled people. And, for reasons I can’t explain, incidents with both tend to often land on the same day for me. The blaring difference between the two almost creates a whiplash.
On one hand, the cruel, entitled and selfish people break my hope and trust within society. It wears me down and makes me wonder “what’s the point?” Then the kind hearted people. The people that care and show kindness warm my heart. They make me step back and go “There’s the humanity. There is the hope in the world.” The hard thing is the kind ones, the selfless acts are often a lot quieter than the cruel ones, so it’s harder to see them. It’s easy in this world to feel beat down and broken. To want to give up. To feel utterly alone. The cruelty is so much louder than the kindness, but if we look we can find the kind acts, the compassionate people and the situations that breed hope.
I once heard a Mr Rogers story that became one of my favorites. When he was a kid and asked his mom about the awful things on the news. Her response was that awful things do happen but if you look you will find the helpers. So, when bad things happen he was to look for the helpers.
I told both my girls this story. During some of Alana’s toughest days, I reminded her there are helpers out there. Now I’m reminding Allison there are helpers in the world. All we have to do is look for them. There lies the challenge. Every day we have to be willing to look for the kindness, the love, the helpers and acts that change lives. We have to choose it. Otherwise in our darkest moments it’s so easy to fall into the heartbreaking question of “what’s the point?”
