01/30/2026
"We often confuse unconditional love with unconditional approval. God loves us without conditions but does not approve of every human behavior."
~ Henri Nouwen
This piece of wisdom of Henri Nouwen is so important today. Many have confused the concepts of unconditional love with unconditional approval. We need to distinguish the difference between loving the person and condoning harmful behaviors. To love someone does not mean that their actions also have to be accepted.
Jesus taught us in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” This is unconditional love - Jesus came, died, and rose again so you might have everlasting life.
In contrast, Psalm 97:10a says, “O you who love the LORD, hate evil! …” 1 John 1:5-6 goes on to say, “This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.” A reminder that we need to put aside who we once were before accepting God into our lives.
If you struggle with sin, remember God loves you. If you have a friend or family member who is stealing, lying, etc., not approving of those inappropriate behaviors, does not mean that they aren’t to be loved. We can disagree on politics, the news, parenting styles, finances, etc., but we can still love the person!
Finally, remember that just because God has unconditional love for you, does not mean that He will approve of your sin. Repent of your sin, love God, and love your neighbor.
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