10/06/2026
Shared by Katie...
I remember the first class of my death doula certification program. One of my instructors asked us: Which age range of end-of-life care are you planning to work with?
I was first up to answer, and I confidently stated: “Only adults.”
So, a couple years later, when Nadine asked if I wanted to volunteer as a photographer with God Winks, I hesitated. As a person without kids, I didn't think I could relate to or support grieving families in the way they needed.
But I couldn’t quite bring myself to say no, so I agreed to shadow Nadine on a few calls.
That distinct and confident “only adults” answer I had been clinging to fell away pretty quickly after I met Baby Z. and his family.
We hear a lot, “I don’t know how you can do this work.” And, frankly, I don't know how I do it either.
I just know that when this mama looked into her little boy’s eyes and his dad kissed his son's head, my heart wasn’t telling me to run from it. In that moment, my heart didn’t care whether I knew the right thing to say. It just told me to create something they could keep to hold onto this moment with their son.
My “only adults” answer had a lot less to do with what I was capable of and a lot more to do with being afraid I wouldn’t know how to help.
I think a lot of us do that. We’re so afraid of saying the wrong thing that sometimes we say nothing, or avoid showing up at all. But I've learned that you don’t have to know exactly how to handle something this heavy to show up for someone in it. And I’m really grateful I said yes. 🤍
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