Ms. Wheelchair New Mexico October Ramirez 2026

06/17/2026

💖 People with disabilities should have the right to marry without losing their income, benefits, or health insurance. 💕

💕 In many countries, including the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom, people with disabilities are discouraged from getting married or are pushed to divorce in order to get or maintain their income, benefits, and health insurance.

In the United States specifically, it's because benefits such as Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid are needs-based and focus on current assets and income. When someone marries someone not in those programs, their partner's assets and income are combined with theirs. It is because of the combined income that many married people with disabilities lose their SSI and Medicaid benefits. For people with disabilities who are already married, many have been forced to divorce and live separately in order to keep benefits that they need to survive.

💕 People with disabilities shouldn't be forced to choose between the benefits they need to survive and their partners. 💕

Digital illustration of a woman with brown skin and curly black hair. She is disabled and is sitting in a grey wheelchair looking at the viewer. The woman is wearing a cream color linen dress, pink and blue flower print go-go boots, pink and blue pom pom earrings. There's a text bubble that reads, 'people with disabilities still do not have marriage equality.'

06/17/2026

I made this even with my blindness. I still need your help. If you want to help directly with the cost of the flight and needing a new ID to fly, I have a Cash App I can give in direct messages. Anything I collect there will go towards travel, and recouping funds to put in my son’s AbleNow account for when I pass. I am fighting for him, and all of our young people to get the correct diagnosis sooner, so they can make informed decisions around their health.

06/16/2026

What are ways you find peace when you’re stressed?

I would not suggest bringing a kitten around without a carrier, as I’m pretty sure I’m all sliced up up from him being unsure about the experience. Though now he’s found peace cuddling.

Love to hear what helps you!

06/16/2026

I had a seizure connected to my illness today. It didn’t pass the parameters I set for needing to go to the ICU, but Xeno-Rex has been resting with me during this recovery. I was trying to move around in my chair earlier, he needed to be in my lap. I think he’s having a growth spurt because while he was very active this morning, all he’s wanted is to sleep and cuddle since a few hours before my seizure until now. His water and food intake is fine, he’s just very appreciative of cuddles right now.

I think he was dis regulated from me having a migraine for days and being bed ridden and not able to play. We had a great system going where I took him during the day, and at night my son had him. Though this is my son’s first time raising a kitten, and his first deep scratch was hard for him. Hopefully settling into our old pattern will allow both the boys (kitten and human) to better match energy when they have their nights together.

I reminded my son that like the kitten, sometimes he expresses himself in hurtful ways that I might not understand, but it will never change my love for him. He brought up, “but you gave birth to me. Also I’m scared to get hurt again by Xeno.” I told him that one day he might have a partner that has children he didn’t help make, and they will also have hard times communicating with him, and it can be hurtful for everyone at times, but showing continued love and support is the kindest thing we can do for the little ones around us.” So hopefully he takes that to heart and learns new ways to show unconditional love even when the once cuddle kitten is a flying ball of chaos.

Of course if it’s too much for him, I’ll take the kitten for a few nights so he has a chance to regulate and destress. I’m just trying to teach him that loving someone is never straight forward. We have easier times, we have times that test us. Boundaries are good and healthy to have, and they allow us to give our love to those who will help keep our peace. When it comes to fostering animals, they need that love, because even if we don’t become this little ones furever home, we give them the love they need and deserve to grow into a loving creature who feels safe with their human companions.

So just remember, you are also lovable, and deserve kindness and patience, and maybe not everyone can give that to you, but those who are best suited to be in your life will.

06/13/2026

Sorry, I was busy after we started to foster a kitten we named Xeno-Rex. Then today I was super sick from a bad migraine. Wouldn’t wish the day I had on anyone.

To end on a happy note, I’ll post photos of our Xeno-Rex and I would love to see your pets.

06/08/2026

I don’t come out of the closet, I fall out.

Though on the good news for today, I have put enough money together to be able to financially qualify for nationals.

At this point only option I have left if flying which is terrifying. I’ve been heavily mistreated for being in a wheelchair, and now I have to make the trip alone, so no one to buffer on my behalf.

Let’s hope the surgery works on my legs so that compression and movement is enough to keep me safe medically.

Wrist is doing great, even though I fell on it today. It won’t negatively affect the surgery, because it’s just one less attached tendon, it’s just a pain to heal from when I hurt it further.

Also you got to hear a cat say mama! So that’s cool! I did attend to his needs after I made this video and while it uploaded on tiktok, as I was summoned.

Hopefully if you’re interested in art, I could make you something based on the amount you’d like to donate towards the flight, or just recouping some costs from me making sure I could financially qualify for nationals. Then there’s no time pressure for me. I used my back pay I got from social security to help qualify, and honestly I’d rather put what ever I recoup into my sons able now account. Maybe some in mine for hard months and a possible out of state move in the future.

Image description:
Berk/ Ms. Wheelchair New Mexico in amber sunglasses, hair cut n a bun, black tank top with a green alien with the words “beware of” above the alien, and “humans” which you don’t see but it’s below the alien. Just a cool shirt. As well as skeleton leg leggings that are shown when I show how I plan to move my legs during the flight. A cat and the word mama appears while my cat calls my name, though it’s a cartoon cat and not my actual cat. Towards the end a buffering symbol appears above my head as I take a long pause to remember what I was trying to say.

06/06/2026

Happy pride month! You are lovable! We will get through this together.

While I use she / her pronouns for others comfort, I prefer they/them. This means I fall under the trans category. Though I don’t feel like I fit there because I don’t face what they have to face. I’m also demisexual which is in the a-sexual spectrum.

This month is here to recognize how much further we have to go as a society for equality. Now is a time to listen and raise up platforms that speak on these issues.

While this is not part of my platform for being Ms. Wheelchair New Mexico, which of course I go by she/her for this out of respect, it is something very important to me and I try to honor all of the communities I’m part of.

06/05/2026

06/05/2026

Today and everyday I want you to radically love yourself in a world that tries to tell you not to.

Bodies are made all differently, and your shape and curves are affected by your genetics. Add on illnesses and medications, and things get chaotic.

If everyone had the same body type, things would get boring, and my blind butt would likely make a lot of mistakes.

I get bummed when I see body shaming, and lack of self love. I know that doesn’t mean much, but I like you as you are. If you want to do something for your health, do it! Yet radical self acceptance is resistance to status quo, and I love a good resistance.

Image description: Ms. Wheelchair New Mexico in a black tank top with her sunglasses reacting to the “brain stew” sound bite(byte?) while text appears about body positivity. While I cannot remember exactly what I said, I do bring up you are worth loving, your weight doesn’t determine your health, not to follow trends to your own detriment, and I’m pretty sure my last point was hating menopause, but acknowledging that that along with other issues can and will mess with your body.

Of course that’s not the only thing that messed up my body, but that’s a video for another day.

Happy pride, love your body and mind, also you can acknowledge you need to grow or work to hopefully help you be the healthiest version of you that you can be, but that’s doesn’t mean to not give love to yourself.