10/28/2019
Weekly Blog -
It’s that time of the year again when the leaves are turning, falling and the temperature is dropping to hint the rise of “the cuffing season”.
For those who are unaware of this term, this is a time period from about October to March where people have a desire to couple up. Not only college students but people of many ages start to stress about having a partner. Psychologically, it has to do with the societal pressure to showcase a partner during festive events and holiday parties in front of family and friends. Thus emerges the feelings of loneliness when and if unable to “cuff” someone to pass through the chilly days.
The state of being lonely is not something to overlook since it can greatly affect our mental health, possibly leading to depression and anxiety. With that being said, a 2007 study on BBC stated that loneliness damages your health as much as smoking 15 ci******es a day.
The question we should ask them is, “How might we tackle the feelings of loneliness?”
✅Find the root of your loneliness - It is helpful when you find the source that is making you feel lonely. That gives you better insight into yourself and possibly even overcome it. Ask yourself “What is most important to me?” and practice it as you actively try to understand yourself.
✅Keep busy - It’s bad to overwork yourself but at the same time scheduled lifestyle or days filled with things you have to do or like to do can keep you on track. It can keep the loneliness at bay and hobbies are the best to forget it even exists. Perhaps you can even make friends through carrying out your hobbies!
✅Don’t dwell - If your loneliness stems from pining for a specific environment, social group or person yet they don’t seem to reciprocate, don’t dwell! Find new groups where you can be yourself and appreciated! Easier said than done of course, but still try to put yourself first and move on. Once you notice you are feeling lonely, ask yourself, "What am I actively going to do to feel differently?"
I hope these small tips can be a reminder for you to love yourself and overcome those cold days and possible loneliness. Warm wishes to each and all of you!
-Nora Nyi Myint ‘22
Outreach Assistant
