10/19/2026
We are all familiar with the struggles of military life — deployments, waiting on orders, PCS season, friends moving… and some less talked about — feeling like you don’t belong because you don’t live anywhere long enough, being cautious about what information you can actually share, high infidelity or divorce rates, and the clash of military culture and Christianity.
It’s a lot.
No wonder you’re struggling with any semblance of patience. With all of these concerns pinging around your mind like a pinball machine, it makes sense that you’re consistently operating in the red zone. And when you’re in that mindset, patience becomes yet another area you feel like you’re floundering in.
…and yet, the Bible commands us to be patient.
Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
But are you noticing what I am? This command has three parts.
Paul begins his exhortation by reminding believers to be joyful in hope. The New Living Translation translates this as “rejoice in our confident hope.” So our first step to patience must begin with finding joy in hope—our hope found in Christ alone.
We must remember our present struggles are only temporary. When we find ourselves in the throes of military life, we must remember — no matter the hardship here and now, it does not change who God is, and it has no effect on my eternal hope in Christ. Praise the Lord.
From that perspective shift, we realize whatever affliction we may face, Jesus is bigger. He’s already won the war. I don’t have to scramble to fix every situation — I must simply abide in Him and the hope He died to give me. That hope allows space to practice patience, which translates from the original Greek “to remain, endure, bear up bravely under a heavy load.”
Military wife, I know it’s a heavy load. I know you are weary. But instead of giving into the lies of the enemy, remind yourself of God’s Word. Remind yourself again of your untouchable hope in Christ. This, too, will pass.
Paul knows the only way to live this out is to remain “faithful in prayer.” Do not give up praying. Remain faithful to the communication line between you and your heavenly Father. He is the One who sustains you and holds you in the palm of His hand.