06/07/2026
If you asked me what the worst thing I've ever been through was, most people would probably expect me to say the abuse.
Honestly?
I'd probably say feeling like my phone was compromised.
Because nobody believes you.
For as long as I could remember, I had Androids. He had an iPhone. Then one Christmas he bought me an iPhone. I don't know if that's when things started or not.
What I do know is at some point my relationship with technology changed.
At one point I was made to switch phone plans and get a new number. Later my phone was broken, and I lost over 300 contacts and years of pictures. Then a new phone showed up.
After that, everything felt off.
My phone wouldn't hold a charge.
Apps would disappear.
My Twitter was completely compromised with inappropriate s*xual content.
I'd call people and swear I'd hear things that made no sense.
Pictures I didn't take would show up.
Random notes would appear.
The TV would turn on and off.
Music would randomly start playing in my car.
Every electronic device in my house felt suspicious.
Maybe some of it had explanations. Maybe some of it didn't.
But here's what I know:
When someone has spent years controlling you, lying to you, manipulating you, and making you question your own reality, you stop trusting anything.
Including yourself.
That's the part people don't talk about.
Cyber abuse isn't always about proving exactly what happened.
Sometimes it's about living with the fear that nothing is private and nowhere feels safe.
And even years later, I still get anxious when technology acts weird.
Not because I'm crazy.
Because once you've been conditioned to expect danger, your brain remembers.
Has anyone else experienced cyber abuse, digital stalking, account takeovers, location tracking, or technology being used as a form of control?
What signs should people watch for?
