21/05/2026
QUESTION: What does healthy consent sound like in a marriage?
Consent isn’t a one-time agreement. It’s an ongoing conversation about what both people like, want, and are comfortable with. A spouse should always feel safe expressing what they do or do not want. And in a space free of pressure, guilt, or anger.
Sometimes consent sounds like:
👍 “Is this okay?”
❓“What would feel good for you tonight?”
💤 “I’m feeling tired tonight. Can we just spend time together?”
☺️ “How would you feel about trying ___?”
🙌 “I’m not comfortable with that, but I would enjoy ___.”
And just as importantly, a loving partner listens with kindness and understanding. And responds to your words with curiosity and care, not guilt trips or resentment.
Marriage should be one of the safest and most supportive relationships in our lives.
No one ever owes physical intimacy simply because they are married.
