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Dedicated to providing support, & advocacy, for families raising children with Complex Trauma and Attachment Disorders such as Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Yes, I recall the exact moment when f realized that our RAD son was going to be a handful. The moment occurred shortly a...
05/27/2026

Yes, I recall the exact moment when f realized that our RAD son was going to be a handful. The moment occurred shortly after we adopted. We entered the children's center of our church for pick Inc. up, only to find him on the VERY TOP of a Pac-Man gaming machine, in the midst of a full-blown tantrum. He was pounding on the machine with his fist, kicking and screaming. His frustration stemmed from the machine being unplugged, and he wanted to play it. The expressions of bewilderment on the faces of those present marked the beginning of my realization that we were embarking on a challenging journey. Truth be told, I had no idea what was awaiting.

- Attach Families Inc. Anonymous Member

sitting with your feelings-Learn to identify what you're feeling-Validate what/why you're feeling-Acknowledge & allow yo...
05/27/2026

sitting with your feelings

-Learn to identify what you're feeling
-Validate what/why you're feeling
-Acknowledge & allow yourself to feel
-Let emotions exist without judgement
-Practice compassion
-Stay mindful and present
-Don't label your emotions as good or bad
Credit www.makinwellness.com

Shared by, Just Me Mental Health


One of the main reasons survival states become chronic is that they start feeding on themselves.The state itself becomes...
05/26/2026

One of the main reasons survival states become chronic is that they start feeding on themselves.

The state itself becomes the new threat.

This is why acceptance was my starting point no matter what survival state I was in — panic attacks, anxiety, burnout, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depersonalization and derealization.

Because every survival state has the same underlying mechanism:

chronic nervous system mobilization that no longer knows how to switch off.

Your nervous system is still preparing for action.

Fight something.
Escape something.
Prevent something.
Control something.

Even if the “threat” is now internal:

an emotion
a sensation
a thought
an energy state
the survival response itself.

The moment you start resisting the state, fearing it, forcing it away, monitoring it obsessively, or trying to control yourself out of it —

the nervous system receives confirmation that mobilization is still necessary.

The state keeps feeding itself.

Acceptance interrupts that loop.

Not because acceptance magically cures symptoms.

Because acceptance changes the nervous system’s calculation of danger.

It communicates:

I am not fighting this.
I am not escaping this.
I am not organizing my entire system around preventing this.

And when the need for the fight drops, the survival state loses fuel.

But acceptance alone is often not enough.

Mobilization is not just psychological.
It is physiological.

It lives in muscle tension.
In bracing.
In held breath.
In activation trapped in the body.

Which is why movement, releasing tension, shaking, stretching, walking, breath work, somatic work, or allowing the body to complete activation can matter so much for discharging survival mobilization.

When you combine movement and acceptance techniques, your body entirely shifts its internal environment.

Because you stop trying to calm down a nervous system while simultaneously convincing it the fight is still necessary. 💜

↪️ Do you feel like acceptance means losing control?

Credit, Aya Rayn

Children act based on a child's reasoning ability. A child experiencing any type of emotional delay or faulty wiring of ...
05/26/2026

Children act based on a child's reasoning ability. A child experiencing any type of emotional delay or faulty wiring of their brain due to trauma may lie and invent false tales or abuse to escape a caregiver's rules.

They do this completely unaware of the serious consequences tor the adult involved. Once they do realize and the chaos of CPS and the police and removal and interrogations begins the child continues with their, lies and may even change stories or add more serious Accusations because chaos is where they feel most comfortable. Chaos is where they thrive.

I have heard professionals and "experts claim "children don't lie about abuse". Those "experts" should be criminally charged for such false statements as any expert in the field of children and Complex Trauma and RAD is well aware that children with these disorders lie about this ALL THE TIME!

Conversely, a mentally healthy child will confess the truth when feeling remorseful, while a child with emotional issues may not experience such emotions and will persist in their deception, endangering their entire family.



Loving and caring for a child with Complex Trauma or Attachment Disorders such as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) dem...
05/25/2026

Loving and caring for a child with Complex Trauma or Attachment Disorders such as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) demands an enormous, huge commitment and heart.

Caregivers make profound sacrifices to ensure the safety and wellbeing of their entire household, particularly when they have other children to consider. To create a secure and healthy home environment, they employ various measures like installing cameras, door alarms, and key combination locks, locks on refrigerators and they often take shifts to closely monitor their child.

The love that parents have for their child is unwavering, but it's not without heartbreaks and challenges due to the deep emotional wounds.

Despite the severe behavioral issues, safety concerns, and emotional turmoil, parents tirelessly search for ways to connect with their child and break through the barriers.

They yearn to provide the nurturing and stable environment that every family member deserves, and they're willing to go to extraordinary lengths to achieve this goal

Parents often need to make significant adjustments to their daily routines, lifestyles, and even their careers to accommodate the unique needs of their child. They frequently experience challenging and sometimes traumatic situations, dealing with physical and emotionahaggression, frequent tantrums/violent rages, and an ever-present fear for the safety of their child and theny other children in the household.

Despite these hardships, their love for their child remains le and guilt unshaken. They exhaust all available resources to find therapies and interventions to help their child heal and grow. Some parents even consider relocating to another state in search of appropriate assistance because finding help for their child can be a nearly insurmountable challenge.

The decision to send a child to residential treatment temporarily or permanently is not made lightly and does not reflect a lack of love for the child. Rather, it's born out of desperation and a deep concern for the child's safety and the well-being of the entire family. These parents love their child deeply but come to the heartbreaking realization that professional care in a controlled environment is the best way to ensure the safety and well-being of their child and otherfamily members. After all, a family cannot so thrive and be healthy in a traumatized environment.

The decision to send a child to residential treatment is made with a, heavy heart, but a broken heart in hope for a brighter future and a safer, healthier environment for their child, without the continuous trauma that has caused PTSD affecting the rest of the family.
Even after that child leaves home, parents still hurt and have love for the child while recovering from the trauma the child created.




Curiosity is a regulatory force. It's very difficult to be dysregulated and curious at the same time.Lisa DionShared by,...
05/25/2026

Curiosity is a regulatory force. It's very difficult to be dysregulated and curious at the same time.
Lisa Dion

Shared by, SYNERGETIC PLAY THERAPY INSTITUTE®

"Children don't get traumatized because they are hurt. They get traumatized because they are alone with their hurt."- Dr...
05/24/2026

"Children don't get traumatized because they are hurt. They get traumatized because they are alone with their hurt."
- Dr. Gabor Mate

Shared by, Synergetic Play Therapy Institute

Predicting if a child with Complex Trauma who previously made talse abuse allegations will do so again depends on the ch...
05/24/2026

Predicting if a child with Complex Trauma who previously made talse abuse allegations will do so again depends on the child'sthe mental and emotional state. Trauma can affect a child's behavior and perceptions, sometimes leading to false allegations. And since our system is set up to believe the child and statements such as "a child wouldn't lie about that" are the norm, many parents and caregivers have little success against such allegations.

Little Mental Health Reminders...health.with.emmaShared by, Just Me Mental Health
05/24/2026

Little Mental Health Reminders...health.with.emma

Shared by, Just Me Mental Health

Y’all will sit on the internet all day calling foster parents “kidnappers” and “traffickers” while completely refusing t...
05/23/2026

Y’all will sit on the internet all day calling foster parents “kidnappers” and “traffickers” while completely refusing to talk about what had to happen for a child to end up in foster care in the first place.

Interesting.

Because where is this same energy for the abused child?

Where is the outrage for the toddler found wandering outside alone?
For the baby born withdrawing from drugs?
For the child covered in bruises?
For the little girl being touched by someone who was supposed to protect her?
For the kids sleeping on floors while adults get high in the next room?
For the child who hasn’t eaten since yesterday?
For the teenager begging not to go home because they’re terrified?

Y’all get real loud about foster care placements.
Real loud about reunification.
Real loud about adult feelings.

But when it comes to child abuse?
Suddenly everybody whispers.

Suddenly it’s:
“Well we don’t know the full story.”
“Parents make mistakes.”
“The system is corrupt.”
“They deserve another chance.”

Meanwhile the child is sitting there carrying trauma adults are too uncomfortable to acknowledge.

And before someone starts twisting words, let me be clear:
Yes, the system is broken.
Yes, some foster parents are harmful.
Yes, families deserve support BEFORE removal happens.

But some of y’all are so desperate to make every bio parent the victim that you completely erase the actual child.

That child matters too.

Some of these kids were not removed over “poverty.”
Some were removed because they were being harmed.

Physically.
Sexually.
Emotionally.
Repeatedly.

And I am so tired of people acting like acknowledging that truth makes you evil.

You know what’s evil?
What happened to the child before anyone ever knocked on the door.

That’s the conversation y’all keep avoiding.
Because it’s easier to villainize the foster mom holding the baby than confront the reality of what that baby survived before she got there.

Credit- The Feathered Nest Blog





Parents and Caregivers of children with Complex Trauma often feelo like they're walking on eggshells, constantly anxious...
05/23/2026

Parents and Caregivers of children with Complex Trauma often feelo like they're walking on eggshells, constantly anxious and on edge to avoid triggering their child.

This life mimics what society accepts as Domestic Violence relationships. But when it is your child that is the abuser and you express negative emotions towards your child friends, tamily and ce professionals rarely understand.

Also, sadly your child can perceive any negative emotions as a threat, viewing YOU as unreliable or unsafe. This can trigger the child's fight, flight, fawn, or freeze responses, leading to more dysregulated behaviors, aggression or dissociation.

As a result, caregivers often hide their true feelings, and begin to walk on eggshells in their own home to maintain calmness, which is emotionally taxing and dysregulating. This sadly also gives the child, who is the abuser, "more power,” teaching them that their abusive behaviors do get them the result they want. It is a ferris wheel that never stops. It just continues to go round and round.



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