09/23/2026
I want to be transparent about something, because this is part of why Lilly’s Heart is so personal to me as well… and I don’t mind sharing parts of my life.
My dad was in and out of my life, but mostly out. We built a stronger relationship when I was in my late 20s, and he passed away when I was 32. But a few years before he left, I had the chance to tell him how much his absence hurt me, shaped me and the damage it caused. He listened. He apologized. And honestly, I loved him even more for that.
My stepdad was there for most of my life. He was an awesome provider, though he was on the road a lot in my early teen years. He was there for me and my kids, and he was a great man. But I knew he had children he wasn’t fully there for, and as a child I wondered, “How can you be here for me but not for them?” Cause I knew what that felt like. We never really had “those talks”, when I was younger, so even with all the good he did, I carried some complicated feelings (due to my own trauma) but it never overshadowed the love I had for him. Surely, he had his own story.
Both my dad and my stepdad showed up differently as grandfathers, and they did an amazing job. I saw the love they gave my children, and I’m grateful my children got to experience that side of them.
These two important men are no longer here, but they left an impression on me and an impact on my family. Their stories are part of the heart behind Lilly’s Heart.
I’m sharing all this to say, We can’t go back and change what a child needed years ago. But we can listen when they tell us. We can apologize. We can show up differently and give the next generation something better to carry forward. That’s why communication and presence matter so much to me.
We can sow a different legacy ❤️
Shoutout to my two dads! 😘