RestoringOneness

12/29/2016

Good information

Your body language speaks volumes.

03/23/2015

Commit to these 10 "House Rules" (or your own version of them) and your marriage could experience a new level of health and happiness.

06/14/2013

This was to funny. As a reminder communication is the number one complaint when we talk to couples. If you can improve your communication all aspects of you relationship will improve.

"Don't try to fix it. I just need you to listen." Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what.

02/27/2013

Too good not to share. Gentlemen take note.

Burnt Toast
Author: Unknown

When I was a kid, my Mom liked to cook food and every now & then I remember she used to cook for us. One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day at work, Mom placed a plate of bread jam and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt toast. But Dad just ate his toast and asked me how was my day at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burned toast." Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides, A burnt toast never hurts anyone but harsh words do!" You know, life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. What I've learned over the years, is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship. Life is too short to wake up with regrets. Love the people who treat you right and have compassion for the ones who don't.
ENJOY LIFE NOW.

02/15/2013

Not sure if it is 100% accurate but it is an interesting read. I always wondered where Valentin day came from.

For Valentine's Day (or the Feast of Saint Valentine), here is the inspiring story of St. Valentine (Valentinus), the Roman priest and doctor who defied the Emperor Clausius II who had prohibited all marriages because Claudius wanted unmarried men to fight his wars. Valentine was caught marrying Christian couples and aiding Christians who were being persecuted.

Valentine was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured for performing marriage ceremonies. Ironically enough, after his arrest Claudius took a liking to this prisoner -- and offered to pardon him if he would renounce his Christian faith. Refusing to do so, the priest was condemned to death. One of the men who was his jailer at the time was a man called Asterius, who's daughter Julia was blind. He was supposed to have prayed with and healed the young girl, restoring her sight, with such astonishing effect that Asterius himself became Christian as a result.

In the year 269 AD, Valentine was sentenced to a three-part ex*****on of a beating, stoning, and finally on February 14, 270, decapitation outside the Flaminian Gate. The story goes that the last words he wrote were in a note to Asterius's daughter. He inspired today's romantic missives and cards on the St. Valentine's feast day by signing it, "From your Valentine."

Circa AD 496, Pope Gelasius declared 14 February to be St Valentine's Day, a Christian feast day, and the first recorded association of Valentine's Day with romantic love was in "Parlement of Foules" (1382) by Geoffrey Chaucer.

02/13/2013

I am sorry that is has been so long since we have posed to RestoringOneness. Life has been busy and I will attempt to do better. When I aw this post today, I had to share it. Please take a few minutes to read it.

Understanding is extremely important when it comes to a healthy successful marriage. When you are willing to understand each other, new vision and hope will emerge. You will immediately become energized to work on your marriage, even if it is rife with trouble. Here is a story that illustrates th...

09/27/2012

Must read article for our Facebook friends.

Facebook Do's and Don'ts, Protect Your Marriage...

09/04/2012

The greatest thing a man can do to a woman is lead her closer to God than to himself.

Wrote a post yesterday on godly spouse: http://godsgracefulness.com/?p=4731

07/02/2012

Input wanted -- Two weeks ago Tina and I spend some much needed rest and time together on vacation in the mountains of Tennessee. It's not that our relationship was in trouble, but we had allowed life to distract us from quality time together. With the exception of reading and studying the "Song of Solomon", this was a week spent without plans or expectations. Our days were spent together wandering through little stores in Gatlinburg, hiking the trails of the Great Smokey Mountains, or just relaxing around the cabin. The TV was never powered up, but our relationship was surely energized!
This trip opened our eyes to the lasting benefits of low cost day trips. This is similar to the idea of date nights, but they are more like date days. So what we have decided to do is spend a day (every few weeks) adventuring and sharing what we find. Now what we need form you is ideas!!
Where (within a reasonable driving time of Baltimore) do you enjoy going for a nice day trip.
We are looking for ideas like walking the shop in Old Ellicott City, hiking to your favorite waterfall on Skyline Drive.

06/23/2012

If you do something wrong, don’t say, “I’m sorry,” which doesn’t need a response. Say, “Will you forgive me?” The other spouse has to say “yes” or “no.” If “no,” you need to talk.
I thought this was a great idea, so I reposted it from "for your marriage!"

06/14/2012

Your spark can become a flame and change everything! -- I saw this written on a sign in a Gatlinburg shop and I had to post it. There is so much truth in this simple statement for couples.

05/28/2012

We are s*xual beings. Without a doubt, s*x is one of the greatest blessings of marriage and the greatest physical pleasure in life. God created marriage in Eden—a word which means "pleasure and delights" in the original language.

A healthy marriage is a marriage with a healthy s*xual atmosphere—and that's exactly how God intended it.

Despite God's desire that marriage be a place of s*xual pleasure, not every couple experiences the same level or frequency of pleasure. How can you enhance it in your marriage?
One way is to communicate honestly and openly with your spouse about your s*xual need. The only way we can truly know how to please our spouses s*xually is for them to tell us—before, during, and after s*x.
If that's going to happen, however, both spouses need to commit to a couple of things. First, you must both commit to sharing—it can't be a single-spouse monologue—and you both must be open to receiving what is shared.
Second, you and your spouse need to create an atmosphere in which you both feel comfortable being honest about your s*xual needs and desires without worrying about rejection or condemnation.
Does this mean you have to accept anything your spouse wants, even if it's sinful or wrong? Not at all. But even if your spouse desires something sinful or something that violates you, you need to be careful how you respond.
Let your spouse know that you are uncomfortable with it—give a firm "no"—but make it clear that you still love them and are committed to them s*xually.
Let's face it: this is something women probably deal with more than men. Some husbands want their wives to fulfill fantasies that can make women feel very uncomfortable, or that gives their wives a sense of being violated. (For instance, if the husband wants to view po*******hy together.)
It is absolutely OK for a wife to be true to her conscience in this matter and say no to the request. But this must be done compassionately, without damaging the relationship with her husband and without somehow communicating rejection of him.
On the other hand, many men become frustrated with their married s*x lives because their wives only communicate with them through negatives. "Stop!" "Don't do that!" "I don't like that!" Rather than openly sharing their desires and explaining what pleases them, some wives may be reserving their s*xual comments only to express what they don't like.
The only instruction some men receive about s*x is what not to do. Talk about frustrating! It's also confusing and counterproductive. It explains why many married men don't know how to meet their wives' s*xual needs.
Almost every man I know wants to please his wife s*xually. Women, please understand that your husbands need positive instruction. Give them a roadmap! Tell them what satisfies your desires. They need to know what excites you.
A healthy marriage is a marriage with a healthy s*xual atmosphere—and that's exactly how God intended it. But don't make the mistake of thinking a great s*x life will just happen on its own. You need to help each other along the way.
The best place to start is with open, honest, and helpful communication.
Blessings,
Jimmy Evans