Fostering A Chord

05/29/2026

https://sports.yahoo.com/articles/permanently-home-joey-logano-shares-230958420.html

Joey Logano did not just wake up one day and decide to become a foster parent. By the time he told the world that two foster children were now living permanently in his home, he and Brittany had already put years of their lives into making a foster care system.

03/25/2026

Here’s what this week looked like. ⬇️

Mental health struggles.
Dysregulation.
Self-harm.
Isolation and shutdowns.
Destruction of property.
Twenty-two pages of missing assignments sent home for a fourth grader.

And that was before Thursday. 😵‍💫

Add in therapists. Mentors. Support workers. A psychiatrist.
All good things. All needed.
All time-consuming.

🏃‍♀️ All while running a business.
💗 Being a single mom.
🥘 Making dinner.
💡 Keeping the lights on.

Do I have all the answers? No.
Half the answers? Sometimes.
Do I question myself? Constantly.

But do I stop trying? Never. 🙅‍♀️

If something doesn’t work, I adjust.
If I get it wrong, I regroup.
If I’m exhausted, I keep moving anyway.

Some weeks I feel strong.
Some weeks I feel like I’m running on fumes and grace.

But here’s what I know:
I will not fail these kids.
And I know I’m not the only one fighting this fight.

When I talk to other foster and adoptive parents, I hear the same stories. The same exhaustion. The same doubt. The same determination.

That’s why I started Fostering A Chord. 💫

Because this is hard.
Because it takes a village. 🏡
Because no one should be doing this alone.

This is a place to share what’s working.
To admit what’s not.
To learn from each other.
To be reminded that you’re not crazy, you’re not weak, and you’re not alone.

If you’re in it right now — welcome.
I’m really glad you’re here.

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Did you know we have an ever-growing library of resources for families in the foster and adopt community? Head over to FosteringAChord.com and dive in!

03/23/2026

⭐ Note From the Founder 📝

I didn’t start this because I had it figured out.
I started this because I didn’t.

I started this in the middle of dysregulation and doubt. In the middle of therapy appointments and school emails. In the middle of wondering if I was helping or somehow making it worse. In the middle of being completely exhausted and completely committed at the same time. 😅

I love these kids more than I knew was possible.
And some days are still incredibly hard.

There are weeks that feel steady. And there are weeks that feel like survival.

There are moments when I think, “Okay… maybe we’re making progress.”
And there are moments when I question every decision I’ve made.

If you’ve felt that tension — you’re not crazy. You’re human.

🌟 I created Fostering A Chord because I needed a village. Real people. Honest conversations. Practical help. Space to say, “This is hard,” without someone responding with a platitude.

I wanted a place where foster and adoptive parents could stop pretending they were superheroes and just admit we’re doing our best with kids who carry more than they should have to carry.

I’m still learning.
I’m still adjusting.
I’m still trying new things when old things stop working.

But I am not quitting. And I know you’re not either.

If you’re here, chances are you care deeply. You’re showing up. You’re fighting for kids who didn’t get a choice in their story.

You belong here! 🫶

We can learn together.
We can share what’s working.
We can hold space for what’s not.

And when one of us is running low, the rest of us step in.

I’m in this with you. 🩵

— Stacey

P.S. I'd love for you to join our community! Join our email list at FosteringAChord.org to stay in the know as we grow and continue to expand our resources (made with YOU in mind!). 🌱

03/20/2026

Foster care and adoption are beautiful.
And they are brutally HARD.

You can love your kids fiercely and still feel completely overwhelmed.

You can be called to this work and still question whether you’re doing it right.

You can have support systems in place and still feel alone at 10:47 p.m. when everything has unraveled for the third time that day.

We exist because this journey requires more than good intentions.

It requires:
✨ Support
✨ Perspective
✨ Practical tools
✨ Community

And people who understand trauma — not just behavior.

Some weeks look like progress.
Some weeks look like dysregulation, shutdowns, missing schoolwork, therapy appointments, and pure exhaustion.

And most of us are trying to navigate it while working full-time, managing a household, advocating at school, coordinating appointments, and keeping everyone fed.

We don’t have all the answers.

But we do know this:
👉 No one should have to figure this out alone.

Fostering A Chord was created to build the village so many of us didn’t have when we started.

A place where:
🗨️ Foster and adoptive parents can share what’s working
💫 We can be honest about what’s not
❤️‍🩹 Trauma-informed strategies are discussed openly
🤝 Supporters can learn how to show up well
🌎 And no one feels like they’re the only one struggling

This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about perseverance.
It’s about refusing to give up on kids who have already experienced too much loss.
It’s about learning, adjusting, and trying again — even when we’re running on fumes and grace.

We exist because these children matter.

We exist because parents matter too.

We exist to inspire, connect, and educate — so that families feel supported, equipped, and part of something bigger than themselves.

If you’re in this journey — welcome.

You’re not alone here. 🩵

➡️💻 Join Our Village! Subscribe to our email list & stay connected at FosteringAChord.org

03/09/2026

The other day I caught myself saying, “Stop being disrespectful.”

And then I thought…what does that actually mean to a child?

“Respect” is a complex word, even for an adult. Unless we slow down, explain it, and model it, our kids may not fully understand what we’re asking of them.

What if instead of saying, “Respect my feelings,” we said, “Care about my feelings”?

That small shift makes it clearer AND more relational!

Respect is really about caring:
💟 About people’s feelings
💟 About rules that keep us safe
💟 About the things we’ve been given

And like any skill, it takes practice.

✨Not practice for perfection — but practice for progress.

Swipe for simple ways to start the conversation at home.

How does your family talk about respect? 💭

01/29/2026

I wouldn’t have made it this far without my village. Period.

And what’s wild is… I didn’t even know many of these people at the beginning.

They showed up along the way—through church, our case manager, events, random connections—people who had been there or were in it with me. They mentored my kids, hugged them, stayed consistent, and helped show them that family can be chosen.

They sent dinner when I was so tired I couldn’t even think about what to feed my kids.
They listened without judgment.
They gave advice when I asked.
They just sat in it with me when I didn’t need advice—I needed someone who understood. 🩵

That’s why I talk about “the village” so much.
Because this road is not built for solo travelers.

And it’s also why I created Fostering A Chord—to help foster/adoptive parents find support, resources, and connection… and to remind you that you don’t have to do this alone.

If you’re still building your village, you’re not failing. You’re building. 🛠️

What’s one kind of support that would actually help you right now?

01/14/2026

I’m going to say the quiet part out loud: after Christmas, I often feel frustrated with my kids.

I want the holiday to feel joyful. I want them to be grateful. I want them to care about giving. And some years… it just doesn’t go like that.

If you’re a foster/adoptive parent and you’re feeling the post-holiday crash, I see you. You’re not a bad parent.

Here’s what I’m learning: gratitude can be taught—but it’s not automatic for kids who’ve lived through trauma and loss. Sometimes “ingratitude” is overwhelm, shame, or not knowing how to receive.

So next year I’m changing my approach:
✅ teach a few “thank you” phrases (no fake excitement required)
✅ structure gift-giving (pick 2–3 people, simple plan, done)
✅ cap gifts (less pressure, fewer meltdowns)
✅ redefine success (respect + one family moment counts)

You’re not alone. I’m in it too. ❤️