Fight For Success, Family Empowerment

08/03/2023

Today let's talk about attention span.

First let's define what it is. Attention span is
the length of time for which a person is able to concentrate/remain interested on a particular activity.

The average attention spans work out like this double your childs age to 3x there ages is the average.

So for 2 years old: it would be between four to six minutes

4 years old: eight to 12 minutes

6 years old: 12 to 18 minutes

8 years old: 16 to 24 minutes

10 years old: 20 to 30 minutes

07/31/2023

The next topic of discussion I want to share is the motivators of behavior for most todlers and small children.

There are many ways to look at behavior I personally feel when evaluating toddlers and small children the following motivators is a good place to start understanding your childs behavior.

1. For Attention,
2 For Escape,
3. For Access to something tangible and the fourth being 4. For Sensory needs.

These functions allow us to understand and categorize our child/rens actions, as well as determine why a particular behavior occurs.

When attention is the motivator it could be attention from any person or animal.

When escape is the motivator it could be from a scary, situation, from being told to do something etc. Escape from anything.

When the motivator is axcess, it means access to food, toys, to watch something, to a person etc.

As you can see they can cross over, be intertwined. That is why a method of observation and documenting is used.

Some call it The ABC Model:
A is for antecedent,
B is for behavior, and C is for consequence.

An antecedent is something that comes before a behavior that may trigger a behavior.

behavior is anything an individual does.

And consequence is something that directly follows the behavior done.

Behavior is rarely just a child is bad.

Using the ABC method we can map out the motivations of behavior, then Fight for Success, Family Empowerment can create a personalized behavior management plan for your child.

07/31/2023

Continuing tips for teaching our children Behavior Management techniques. Let's talk about two types of language. Receptive and Expressive language skills?

What are they??
The simplified answer is.
1.Receptive language refers to how your child understands language spoken to them.
2. Expressive language refers to how your child uses words to express themselves.

There are 4 main types of expressive skills?
A.Speaking,
B. Gesturing (waving, pointing),
C.Writing (texting, emailing),
D.Facial expressions (crying, smiling), and vocalizations (crying, yelling) are all variations of expressive language.

Just because we speak words does not mean we are heard or understood. And this is especially true for preschool and elementary aged children. Yes, Hearing requires listening, but it also requires understanding and further more it requires that both parties use the words spoken the same, or confusing immediately can and will occure especially with toddlers.
One of the reasons yelling across the room many times does not create a child compliance the first time it typically will take repeating many times, and at that point most toddlers are not responding to the words spoken but rather the energy and look of there parents or caregiver. While infants show glimers of counsiousness and memory as early as 5 months, however fully developed conscious is not until 3 years old.
(In that the child begins to be keenly aware of the concept of right and wrong and those feelings become part of their self awareness) which will continue to develop well into adulthood.

Gabrielson, P (2013,April 18th). The conscious Brain.
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07/25/2023

Continuing the discussion on limits for toddlers and elementary aged children.

Giving/setting limits, is important with children, because they help to make children feel safe and protected even when it seams they fight the limits set. Especially when limits are newly set and or maintained inconsistently.

Kids are comforted knowing adults are taking care of things and helping them stay in control. Boundaries and limits help children feel more secure, and following rules makes their lives more predictable, and be able to know what the outcome will be when they don't follow the rules. It does not prevent, all fighting against limits but with consistency it grately decreases disobedience beginning at age 3 onward.

07/25/2023

For the next four weeks I will be posting information on different behavior management concepts.
We will begin with why setting limits for our children are necessary despite a perceived unhappy child's reactions to the limits being newly set.

Limits tell a child what your expectations are and give the child guidelines for expected behavior both inside and outside the home. Setting limits have many benefits. They help kids develop self-control, take responsibility for their choices, and prevent them from feeling entitled. Remember setting limits is not punishment.

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Hello! Meet Monica, the owner of Fight For Success, Family Empowerment. I am a mother of 3 sons and Grandmother of 6 grandchildren. Fight for success, Family Empowerment is an organization that aims to help families, be empowered in there parenting journey.
We offer Behavior Management 1.Coaching for your 2- 11 year old child/ren
2. Advocay support for IEP's
3. Tutoring for 2- 10 year olds for academic susport and development.
4. Adult Anger management, from a trauma perspective.
5. Mentoring talk therapy trauma Informed.
I look forward to helping in your parenting journey.