07/01/2025
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I have been closely monitoring the debate on who should be a wife material between a village girl referred herein as the 'illiterate' and town girl referred herein as the 'literate' among the intellectuals. Most of arguments are based of character, production, personal administration, cultural aspects and so forth.
In regards to character, production, personal administration, cultural aspects and many more; there is no exceptions to such where one can make excuses that, there is exception here and there.. whether in town or village, a girl shall undergo or undertake the above mentioned facts.
In regard to character,
All girls, whether literate or not, must possess some characteristics (can it be good or bad) base on individual's response to provocative behaviors and as well, their capacity to understand or perceive things.
Sincerely speaking, not all educated girls are spoiled brats nor all village girls are good. That's why there are village girls that undergo impregnation, divorce and/or committing numerous crimes e.g adultry etc. Same things apply to girl in the town...some of them are slaying and some committing that same offenses being committed by villagers or illiterate.
Therefore, one can't conclude that villagers are the most decent and appropriate for marriage as wife material.
In regard to production,
No one knows how many kids you will bear. We can't assume that when you marry a villager you will have many kids with..nope! To what extent one will produce is God blessing and capacity. There are many illiterate outside there struggling to have kids as well to educated girls. The idea is to embrace what you have and seek for blessings from allah. Following biological theories assuming that women's productions end at 45-50s. There is no proof to such proclaimed theories. Marrying someone at 25-30s isn't that bad still. Getting marry is a luck that's why there are nyiir biem(mature girls) and deuNyueeth (young girls) in every society but at the end, Both of them produce kids...what matters isn't the number of kids you have but what impacts your few kids will make.
In regards to personal administration,
Being administrative has nothing to do with where you're residing. But how you were taught and brought up. In reality, a good administrator is she who undergone educational processes or in other words, and educated personality is assume more administrative than the other.
FYI, administration is well effective based on the field of expertise. You can't marry a villager and make her in charge of town's administration or affairs. She won't excel despite her natural ability. But an educated girl can administer both affairs both in the town and back home this is because educated girls acquired education which give them ability to administer everything thereof.
In regard to cultures and norms:::.
Of course as a society, there are always believes and norms that guide community ethics and ways of living or doing things. It's obvious.!. We can't assume that when girl is illiterate, she's more oriented culturally, nope! Educated girls are part of society who later went to school to acquire skills in various fields with a hope of changing societies and be self-reliance. They didn't fall from sky without being taught cultures. Sooner or later, all societies will be educate their girls and we shall see what you will do next. I'm not saying cultures are to be prohibited but trying to tell you that they are part of people who constituted a society, whether educated or not. To prove it, cultures have been recognized and respected in every guiding principle [whether national or International] drafted by people's representatives. However, negative cultures are prohibited by the said laws.
Therefore,
As intellectual, it's unfair and inhumane to demands marrying a girl who never went to school with aim of marginalizing her throughout her life time. GBV isn't all about physical assualt but also domestic violence are considered as GBV..
Taking advantage of her inability (illiteracy) is the biggest injustice and GBV you can ever do to her.
It is better to marry a person of your caliber, who can, in any aspect/circumstance stand for herself. You can't fool a person of your caliber...because he or she will definitely object any of your wrong decision/doing by suggesting the alternatives..not only that but also, can't be manipulated and/or threatened to be abandoned.. of which such threats will make her accommodate your nonsensical behavior because she lacks capacity to speak up for herself.
To be continued!
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๐ผ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐,
๐ป๐ป.๐ผ ๐ฒ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ (๐๐พ๐น),
๐ป๐ป.๐ฑ (๐๐ธ๐),
B๐๐. ๐ถ๐๐ & ๐ผ๐๐ (๐๐พ๐น).
