NCLSW

17/01/2024

We all carry the influence of our surroundings, and these influences are like shadows shaping us. These shadows start at home, where we learn things, but often with a narrow perspective. Then, as we go to school, we grow more, yet it's another kind of shadow guiding us.

When we change our environment, the shadows change too. This is why people change – we adapt to different influences. Experiencing various shadows helps us grow in unique ways, much like how nature changes every day. Unlike nature, though, humans can choose their shadows. We can decide when to switch influences to help our minds grow.

So, I think it's time for me to be wise and decide when to change my surroundings, choosing the shadows that will help me develop and become a better person.

16/01/2024

Making fun of others is not about gender; it's a behavior where one person takes the lead, and the other becomes the victim, often with limited defenses. Women may be targeted more because of their caring and forgiving nature, traits that Allah has gifted them. While women have much good to offer, it raises the question of the roles of husbands, brothers, fathers, and other male figures. Everyone has a responsibility. However, the focus should be on individual empowerment. Each person should stand up for themselves, say no to wrong things, and resist overparenting.

Yet, it's challenging to navigate saying no to every negative attitude and still survive alone, especially for those with a naturally giving and loving personality. The struggle lies in not wanting to lose that attribute and instead treating it as a source of fear. Family dynamics play an important role, with mothers sometimes encouraging self-defeating behaviors, and fathers providing support in different ways. It's tempting to blame someone, be it society or the world, but the key is to learn how to balance oneself, make personal choices, and trust one's instincts. Respecting oneself is crucial before extending that respect to others. Ultimately, the desire is to be a light, burning with experiences and turning them into wisdom. May Allah protect and guide us. Ameen.

11/01/2024

In the quest to change, I strive for the better,
Uniqueness, the key, my own special letter.
A world of possibilities, vast and grand,
I am the chooser, in this expansive land.

Difficulties arise, testing my might,
Yet, within challenges, my strength takes flight.
As I begin this journey, a self-discovery delve,
I am the proud owner, of my truest self.... SR

11/01/2024

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10/01/2024

In childhood's dance, with dolls so dear,
A world of feelings, whispered in their ear.
A haven of love, where shadows retreat,
A unique wonderland, my heart's own beat.

Distinct and tender, my feminine grace,
In this cherished realm, emotions find space.
A poetic journey, where feelings entwine,
A dance of emotions, uniquely mine... SR

08/01/2024

In a world of practicality, my emotions bitter,
No wings to fly, in financial quiver.
As a woman, silent, no voice to claim,
In the Quran, my rights whisper my name.

To ask for help, or to place the blame,
I navigate a path where emotions flame.
Seeking comfort in both realms, I strive,
In the balance of love, life, and the drive...SR

07/01/2024

"Emotional abandonment" doesn't pick sides – it affects everyone. Since I was little, emotions spoke louder to me than logic, a gift I believe comes from Allah/ higher power(respect other religions). As I grew up, I noticed how busy everyone was, engrossed in economic and social activities. However, the problem arises when emotions become neglected, particularly for women who are often unfairly labelled as weak in every perspective by assigning a specific sad/ bechari emotion. Instead of blaming genders, the real issue is that nobody teaches us how to handle emotions. We're surrounded by emotional triggers in our movies, dramas and daily lives, and the next step judging others in the form of over-negative thinking becomes a norm. Dr. Javed Iqbal once in his public talk rightly said emotions are temporary, and yes that's true, yet our society heavily influences how we interpret them.
To shield ourselves from emotional manipulation Do we need more open conversations and a focus on personal growth?

03/01/2024

Blaming others is often discouraged by parents, neighbors, and elders, and it's something I've noticed since childhood. People generally don't like being blamed, and the whole blame game can be hurtful and shameful. While it may seem like a trend or a game, especially with the rise of social media, it's essential to consider its impact.

In my country, despite the pride in being Muslims, we often engage in blaming even when it goes against the teachings of Islam. As a student of gender studies, I've observed that blaming is a common behavior in our society, regardless of gender. Many of us, influenced by bad experiences or bitter relations, tend to put blame on others.

However, constantly blaming each other isn't a solution. It's a cycle of hurt, where one person hurts another, and the cycle continues. Instead of constantly blaming, it's worth questioning whether we are truly okay or satisfied in such relationships. Maybe it's time to set boundaries, not just to protect ourselves but also for personal development. It's crucial to break free from this cycle of blame and focus on building healthier connections....
just my perceptions...:)

02/01/2024

In January's sky, clouds drift on high,
As I seek the sun with a questioning sigh.
A part of nature, yet in constant debate,
Loving clouds, but they bring a somber state.

Yearning to share my emotions with the sun,
Yet, these clouds weave a chill, making it undone.
Oh Allah, in the morning, my prayers take flight,
But through the day, I linger in denial's night... SR

02/01/2024

Overparenting doesn't have a specific gender; it's an approach where parents excessively help their children, often with strict beliefs and limited boundaries. While parents aim for their children's happiness and success through education, this mindset can sometimes lead to a narrow focus on grades and degrees.

Parents, with good intentions and love, invest heavily in their children's education, hoping it will pave the way for a successful future. However, this approach can result in a rigid black-and-white thinking that may hinder the development of essential life skills beyond academic achievements. The clash between generations, often termed as a generational gap, arises from this differing perspective.

Reflecting on a quote by Hazrat Maulana Rumi R.A,
"It's your road and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you,"
highlights the importance of individual journeys. Despite the guidance and prayers of parents, each person must navigate their unique path in life. Respecting our parents is crucial as they are our first teachers, and their love and guidance shape us. However, the information we receive from various sources, such as education, social media, and our surroundings, contributes to our personality development. It's essential to recognize that our journey is influenced by a combination of these factors.

When overparenting becomes overwhelming, it creates a misbalance in our personality development, often unfairly blamed solely on education. It's crucial to acknowledge that education itself is not a punitive force, but sometimes the pressure from parents can feel like a stern hand ready to correct our course.
while parental guidance is invaluable, Embracing a more open-minded approach that allows room for individual growth, diverse experiences, and self-discovery can lead to a more well-rounded and fulfilled life... SR

31/12/2023

----"Radiance Within: The Language of Smiles"-----

Make my day bright with a big smile,
It's a feeling I have when words take a while.
I use it when I feel scared,
Like a shield, it's there, showing I cared.

It happens when love is about,
A warm feeling, there's no doubt.
It's the start of a path, a journey so sweet,
Open for all, it's a friendly greeting.

Even for those who keep it tight,
Sharing the joy, spreading the light.
In every smile, a friendly trace,
A feeling that time can't erase... SR

30/12/2023

-----"Journey of Solitude: Finding Paradise Within"--------

Walking alone, a guide to spirituality,
Where I meet Allah in nature's warm embrace.
I talk, He listens, arms of comfort,
In reply, wings bestowed, ready to embrace.

Strength granted, building my paradise on Earth,
Alone no more, with Him, a soulful rebirth.... SR