What's The Design?

30/03/2026

This is why you need a birth class, especially if you’re aiming for a gentle, normal, unmedicated birth.

My wife and I initially thought we didn’t need a birth class. We believed we could research and DIY this ourselves. Akala namin yun ang practical.

We’re grateful that the birthing team we partnered with encouraged us to attend a class before our actual labor. Because what we thought we knew was only surface level. There’s a difference between knowing and actually doing it right.

We had been practicing on our own, thinking we were already confident.

Then we realized how much we didn’t know. There were so many things we wouldn’t have learned this fast without the guidance of a doula or a gentle birth practitioner. Yung akala namin confident na kami with what we practiced on our own, may mas tamang form pa pala. Small adjustments, but they changed everything. Not just what to do, but how to actually execute it with confidence, knowing we were doing it right.

It also made us realize how important it is to understand what’s really happening. The principles, the biology, the physiology. What unfolds during labor, and even after. Not just what to do, but why it matters.

You won’t rise to what you casually learned. You will fall back to what you truly understand.

Toward the end of the class, I told our doula that this birth class is something I would highly recommend. It’s worth the time, the effort, and the investment.

And it made us think…

If birth is this important, why do so many of us prepare for it so lightly?

Maybe gentle, normal, unmedicated birth isn’t something new we need to learn.

Kaming mag asawa ipinanganak using a gentle, normal unmedicated approach.

Maybe it’s something we’ve slowly forgotten.

Because after all, unmedicated normal birth is God’s design.

—Nikko&Liz

26/03/2026

Since we started our pregnancy my wife has clearly expressed her desire and faith to have a normal unmedicated gentle birth and I’m all here to support her with that.

Doing our due diligence as we just patiently wait for our little one.

Wives: clearly express your desire for birthing your little one to your husband.

Husbands: Be the advocate and the #1 support of your wife.

Pregnancy is partnership. This is God’s design. 🫶🏻

23/03/2026

MALUNGGAY for the win! Dahil mag brebreastfeed si misis. 💪🏻🌿🍃

18/03/2026

THE MINDSET SHIFT THAT TRANSFORMED OUR MARRIAGE POWERFULLY.

The Everyday Day 1 mindset.

2 to 3 weeks from now and we are expected to give birth to our little one. Minsan mas excited pa ako sa due date ni baby. Minsan naman si misis. Habang hinihintay namin lumabas si baby, napansin ko sarili ko getting excited and sometimes I forget to be present. I even told my wife again about the due date habang naguusap kami kanina, parang inaabangan ko na agad kung kailan mangyayari.

But my wife responded very calmly.

Sabi niya, I’m just enjoying every moment. Malalaman ko naman kapag lalabas na si baby. I dont really rely on the due date. I would know.

She is intensely present every day.

Eto yung lesson ngayon namin and what Ive come to realize. Your spouse is your first accountability partner. This is what accountability in marriage actually looks like.

May mga pagkakataon na isa sa inyo ang magiging excited, anxious, o masyadong nakatingin sa future. And it becomes the role of the other to bring you back to what you already know.

Not to control or lecture you. But to remind you.

That’s accountability.

One of the mindset shifts that deeply helped us grow as a couple started in our training.

The Everyday Day 1 mindset.

Nung sinapuso namin yung reality na today is all there is, we started showing up differently.

Okay lang samin yung laging Day 1 sa gym. In fact, we started loving it.

Why?

Because when every day is Day 1, something powerful happens.

Time dissolves.

The weight of the past disappears.
The pressure of a future version of yourself fades.
There is only the raw commitment to show up today.

Once you understand that stewardship of your life is a daily decision to be fully human and fully present, you stop waiting for some perfect future version of yourself.
You simply give your best today.
Because today is all there is.

And now we’re living the same mindset in this pregnancy.

Hindi kami nagmamadali.
Hindi rin kami nagpapadala sa projected future.
We’re just choosing presence.

Because these are moments we will never get back.
My wife reminded me of that when we talked about the due date.

And it made me realize something deeper.

Marriage means having someone who can call you back to the present when you start drifting away from it.

That’s what accountability looks like in this season.

Just two people reminding each other of what truly matters. And sometimes, that simple reminder changes everything.

MARRIAGE LESSON #22
BEING PRESENT IS A SUPERPOWER and your spouse is your first accountability partner that should call you back when you start drifting away from it.

18/02/2026

JESUS IS KING! 👑

Yesterday, Today and Forever.

14/02/2026

MARRIAGE LESSON 21

As we celebrate 21 months of marriage, we are deeply grateful for this season. Our pregnancy has not just been a blessing. It has been a teacher.

It reminded us of the original design of marriage.

ONENESS.

We are not two people simply sharing a baby. It is not just her pregnancy. It is OUR pregnancy. We are ONE FLESH carrying life.

And now, as life grows inside her womb, that truth feels literal. Tangible and sacred.

But it wasn’t always this strong.

I still remember our first year. We struggled with being ONE. With interdependence. We entered marriage as two strong, independent individuals. Mga alpha kung tawagin. Palaban sa buhay. Hinubog ng kahirapan. Shaped by survival. We had our own pace, our own ambitions, our own mountains to climb.

We knew how to win alone. But we had to learn how to become ONE.

And the woman I married 21 months ago is not the same woman today. And I don’t like it. I LOVE it.

I love how she evolved. How she adjusted. How she allowed parts of her old self to die so she could grow into the woman she is becoming — a healed woman, a nurturer, a mother.

I watched her loosen her grip on the version of herself that always had something to prove. Competitive. Self-reliant. Fierce. Strong but tired. And I had to do the same.

Because ONENESS is not achieved when only one surrenders. It is built when both do.

Fast forward to today.

She did her healing work. I did mine. We both chose obedience over ego. And when we aligned ourselves with God’s design, He entrusted us with another human life to steward.

What I see now growing inside her is more than a baby.

It is FRUIT.

Fruit of surrender and obedience.
Fruit of inner work.
Fruit of choosing US over self.

Pregnancy is sealing the lesson deeper.

There is no more “me.”
There is no more “her.”
There is US carrying life.

This season has even allowed us to also serve other couples not from theory but from testimony. We teach oneness now because we fought for it. We wrestled for it. We surrendered for it.

Marriage is not losing yourself in a way that breaks you.
It is surrendering the false self so you can become whole with someone. You become a cord.

A threefold one — you, your spouse, and God.

And when you live from that place, oneness stops being a theory. It stops being a concept. It becomes real power. Totoong sya hindi lang sa utak pero pati nervouse system mo naniniwala na iisa kayo.

When two people fully commit to becoming ONE under God’s design, something shifts that hardship cannot easily break. Because marriage was never meant to be two competing individuals.

Not in finances.
Not in ambition.
Not even in pregnancy.

The design was never separate. It was always ONE.

—Nikko&Liz

10/02/2026

Jesus, I quiet my soul before You and choose alignment over control. Search me, lead me, and order my steps according to Your design. Let my obedience today become worship.

Amen.

07/02/2026

Madalas ng mangalay si misis at very expressive dito. The last thing I want her to feel is that she is carrying the pregnancy alone. Kahit sa gantong paraan ay maibsan ang kanyang pangangalay.

Husbands: Your wife was never meant to carry pregnancy alone. You may not feel the life growing inside her, but you can carry the weight of the days, kahit yung simpleng pangangalay, the fatigue, the unspoken needs. Be fully present. Love shows up daily.

God designed it as a shared assignment. She is not pregnant by herself , YOU ARE BOTH pregnant.

05/02/2026

GRABE NA TALAGA ANG MUNDO NGAYON.
When did liking flowers become a reason to question a child’s identity?

I saw this post from Coleen Garcia, and she wrote:

“I don’t understand why some people assume a child’s gender identity or sexuality just because of their interests. Liking flowers doesn’t define who a child is. Amari has loved flowers and plants since he was little, and that’s simply part of who he is, curious, gentle, and appreciative of nature.”

TAMA SYA. And more than that, she’s doing something brave. She’s protecting her child from DISTORTION.

The danger of today’s culture is not curiosity.
It’s labeling. DAMING LABELS NA DI MO ALAM SAN GALING. LGBTQIABCDEFGFIJK…..

Hindi porke mahilig sa bulaklak ay hindi na lalaki.

A MAN IS A MAN, EVEN IF HE LIKES FLOWERS.

God DESIGNED men before culture did.

And God never said masculinity was limited to aggression, noise, or dominance.

Makwento ko lang, when I was a child, sobrang hilig ko din sa halaman at bulaklak. Sa gardening. Nature. I was gentle. I didn’t like basketball. I loved folk dancing and ballroom. By society’s standards, that already placed a label on me.

Not because of who I was but because of what I enjoyed.

For a while, I got used to those labels. But I never accepted them as truth. Deep down, I knew who I was. I knew I was a man, even if I didn’t fit the narrow version culture kept pushing.

And here’s what culture never tells you.

I grew up.
I built a life.
I married an incredible woman.
I’m about to become a father to a son.
I respect women.
I live with purpose.
And I have a living, active relationship with my Creator, the Master Designer of life.

That is not confusion. That is clarity.

When parents stop anchoring identity to God’s design, culture will rush in with labels. Children don’t need to be redefined.They need to be protected. They don’t need to be boxed into stereotypes.They need to be rooted in truth.

Interests do not determine identity.

Gentleness does not cancel masculinity.

Creativity does not rewrite God’s design.

Parents, this is the work. Not panicking.Not labeling.Not outsourcing identity to trends. But standing firm and saying, “My child is who God says they are, not what culture assumes.” Kaya saludo ako sayo, Colleen. You are on the right track.

Because real love doesn’t rush to rename what God already designed. It guards it.

And when we do that, we don’t just raise confident children.

We raise anchored ones.

—Nikko

05/02/2026

Speaking with respect, identity confusion often signals a deeper search for belonging and truth. My prayer is that you experience clarity, healing, and guidance rooted in God’s design and love, not pressure from culture or trends.

‘I’M BISEXUAL’

Nic Chien, son of theater star Lea Salonga, revealed that he’s attracted to both girls and guys as he also opened up about experiencing gender dysphoria during his teenage years.

READ MORE: https://inqnews.net/nicchienbisexual