07/10/2025
This is indeed a heartbreaking story — one that deeply reflects the rising crisis in our generation regarding emotional immaturity, lack of self-control, and the absence of the fear of God in many homes today.
As a pastor and marriage counselor, my heart bleeds when I hear stories like that of Dr. Samson Haruna, a promising young man, a medical doctor, and a newly commissioned military officer — whose life was cut short not by war or disease, but by anger, mistrust, and uncontrolled emotion within his own home.
🕊 My Counsel to the Youth and Every Young Couple
1. Marriage Is Not for the Unprepared
Marriage is not a social experiment, a status symbol, or an emotional playground. It is a spiritual covenant — one that requires maturity, patience, and submission to God.
Before you say “I do,” make sure you have first said “Yes, Lord.”
If your walk with God is unstable, your relationship will not stand.
Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it.” — Psalm 127:1
2. Emotional Control Is a Must
No matter how hurt or provoked you are, violence is never an option.
Many have destroyed their destinies in seconds because they couldn’t control their temper.
A home is not built by shouting, fighting, or retaliation — it’s built by understanding, patience, and communication.
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty.” — Proverbs 16:32
3. Deal With Insecurity and Suspicion
Suspicion is a silent killer of peace in marriage. The moment trust is lost, everything else begins to crumble.
Before you accuse your spouse, ask questions. Communicate. Don’t allow fear and imagination to lead you into sin.
Many people are not fighting their partners — they are fighting their own insecurities and unhealed wounds.
4. Seek Counsel Early
Many couples wait until things fall apart before seeking help.
Learn to talk to a pastor, counselor, or trusted mentor when issues begin to rise.
There’s no shame in seeking guidance. It’s better to humble yourself and be helped than to pretend and destroy everything.
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” — Proverbs 11:14
5. To Every Girl Child and Young Woman
Dear daughters, learn to value your peace more than your pride.
Don’t marry a man you can’t trust, and don’t remain in a home where your heart burns with resentment and unhealed pain.
Never allow jealousy, anger, or suspicion to lead you into evil.
One uncontrolled moment can destroy years of destiny.
You are called to be a builder of homes, not a destroyer of lives.
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” — Proverbs 14:1
6. To Every Young Man
Be careful whom you marry.
Beauty without character is a trap. Choose a woman who fears God, not one who is just beautiful or educated.
Leadership in marriage is not about domination — it’s about love, patience, and self-sacrifice.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” — Ephesians 5:25
My Final Word
The death of Dr. Samson Haruna is a loud call to this generation — a cry for wisdom, discipline, and the return of godly homes.
Love without God is dangerous. Marriage without maturity is a time bomb.
Let this tragedy awaken us to rebuild homes founded on Christ, not on emotions or social media ideals.
My Prayer
Lord, heal the homes that are hurting.
Restore peace where there’s conflict.
Teach us to love with patience and wisdom.
Deliver our generation from anger, pride, and violence.
And help every young man and woman to build homes that reflect Your heart.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
