23/09/2026
IS S*X DURING FASTING ALLOWED BIBLICALLY?
Beloved, let me speak plainly and with the fear of the Lord: when you embark on fasting, especially the kind that is extended or daily (like the 6 PM to 6 PM fast you can sustain even for a year), the question often arises among married people: “Can we still come together as husband and wife during this time?” I want to give you clear, scriptural, and practical guidance so that you do not fall into error or defraud one another.
The Scripture is very explicit on this matter. In 1 Corinthians 7:5, the Apostle Paul writes: “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Notice the wording carefully: “except with consent for a time.” Fasting is that “time” of mutual agreement to set aside certain pleasures for spiritual pursuit. But it is not a time to permanently withhold yourselves from each other. The purpose is spiritual alignment, not marital starvation. If you use fasting as an excuse to defraud your spouse, you are walking in disobedience.
Now, listen to me: for the kind of fasting I have taught—where you break the fast every evening with one meal—the intimacy between husband and wife does not affect your spiritual alignment. It does not weaken your consecration. In fact, beloved, it often adds strength—both to your body and to your union. When you come together in love and mutual respect, it can actually refresh you and help you carry the fast with greater grace. The marital bed is honorable (Hebrews 13:4), and God designed it to be a place of blessing, not a place of guilt during seasons of prayer.
But hear this also: everything must be done with mutual consent and understanding. Do not force or manipulate your spouse. If your wife or husband is not comfortable, or if the fast is calling for deeper consecration in a particular season, then agree together to abstain for that short period. The key is agreement—not unilateral decision. Do not say, “I am fasting, so you must suffer.” That is not the spirit of Christ. That is fleshly pride.
So, to the married brothers and sisters: yes, you can engage in marital intimacy during your daily broken fast. It is permitted. It is even beneficial when done in love. Just make sure it does not become a distraction from your prayer and the Word. Keep your focus on seeking the face of God. But do not turn fasting into an occasion to defraud your spouse—that opens the door for temptation, and the enemy is always looking for such loopholes.
May the Lord give you understanding. May He grant you wisdom to balance the demands of the spirit and the responsibilities of the marriage covenant. Walk in love, walk in agreement, and let your fasting bring you both closer to God and to each other.
Grace and peace be multiplied to you
Message Credit: Apostle Arome Osayi
