23/07/2026
Dear Intentional Wife,
There is a Yoruba adage that says, “Obìnrin sọ ìwà nù, ó ní òun ni ìrì ọkọ” — meaning, a woman loses her good character and then blames it on not having a good husband.
Character is one of the greatest treasures a wife can cultivate.
Beauty may attract attention, but character is what sustains relationships.
Beauty may fade with time, but good character will continue to speak.
Even if you try to pretend you have good character or package yourself to appear that way, just like smoke, it cannot be hidden forever. Eventually, what is inside will find its way out. Character cannot be permanently disguised.
As a wife, you must intentionally work on yourself and develop godly character traits such as kindness, patience, humility, forgiveness, wisdom, and self-control.
The Bible says in Proverbs 31:26-
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the law of kindness is on her tongue.
A woman's character is revealed through her words, her actions, and the way she responds to others.
I understand that some character flaws have become strongholds, and breaking free from them has not been easy.
But can I remind you that the Potter is still in the business of moulding and remoulding?
Turn to God and allow Him to work on those deep-rooted areas of your character.
He is able to transform what we cannot change by our own strength.
I remember a decision I made some time ago when I was still single when a friend looked me straight in the eyes and told me that I used too many abusive words and that if I didn't work on it, I might struggle to keep relationships.
That conversation challenged me, and I made a decision to allow God to help me become better.
God is more than willing to help and transform you.
Remember, your character will not only affect you; it will also influence generations after you.
Let us choose to work on ourselves, not just for today, but for the sake of the next generation as well .
I am Adeola Omotoke Atiba
