28/09/2024
With all this happenings in our present world, some adults still encourage S*x before marriage .
The ladies in most cases are left to suffer the grevious consequences.
Now, Read this true life story :
I met this guy mid-2019, and we started dating. I really fell for this guy, and I thought we were probably ending up together. He told me about his plans to travel outside the country where his elder brother was. When we met, he was a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic, so he said he didnât really like the job and was going to look for greener pastures abroad.
In 2022, he told me his visa was out; I was very happy for him, so I asked him about his plans towards me. He did the usual sweet-talking,
saying he was never going to forget me, bla bla.
It was during this period I found out I was pregnant. When I told him about the pregnancy, he said he wouldnât advise me to keep it because he was traveling and also wasnât ready to be a father; that I should terminate the pregnancy.
Despite telling him that I could lose my life in the process, he said, and I quote, âIf you are afraid of normal removal of the fetus, use pills; that one is not harmful or dangerous.â I just didnât know what to say again; I just told him I wasnât ready to lose my life.
Little did I know I was having twins.
All through my nine-month journey, this guy never called, even once, or replied to my WhatsApp messages.
My pregnancy journey was a hard one; I fell sick all through my nine months, always on drip every time.
It was the grace of God that I was able to scale through.
I delivered through Caesarian section, and that operation was a tough one.
After giving birth, one of the babies was placed on oxygen because of how difficult the whole process was; I almost lost my life in this process.
The day I opened my eyes and was able to hold my children, I did a video with my phone and sent it on WhatsApp to Kola, still he didnât reply.
So I told my family I was going to block him and delete his number, but my mum told me not to do it.
When it was time for us to discharge from the hospital, there was no money; my mum was running helter-skelter just to source for funds, all to no avail. I was confused, so I texted him on WhatsApp again, told him our current situation, and even snapped the bill, which was 233,000, to him, but still, this guy did not reply.
I cried my eyes out; someone who just did an operation. My blood pressure became very high again.
The doctor came and started encouraging me, saying I should stop thinking that God will help me take care of my children.
After everything we were able to raise 200,000, so the doctor told us to forget the balance.
We got discharged, came home, and I started taking care of my kids. He never called me or showed interest in the kids; I named my children myself, did everything myself; he didnât care or show interest.
I called his brother, the one in Nigeria, and told him everything that had happened. He said he was going to call me back, that he needed to speak to his brother and confirm what was happening.
After some weeks, I called his line, only to discover I had been blocked.
My children completed one year; I still sent him an update that it was my childrenâs birthday. Not like we celebrated it; I just took them to the studio to snap one picture. Kola never replied, although I got used to him not replying. But his attitude was draining me emotionally.
Because of constant illness my children were having an elderly woman advise I shld take them to their fatherâs people because twins are like that, raising them is usually not an easy thing.
After much deliberation I made up my mind to collect money from a loan app. I collected that money, 50,000, and we headed for Ondo State. On reaching Ondo town, because thatâs where they live, Adeyemi College of Education, I told the security at the gate who we were looking for.
They said we should hold on and that they will help us get a ride that will take us to their house.
I didnât know their house because I hadnât been there. While we were waiting, a car drove towards where we stood, so the security man now stopped the car.
Behold, it was his brother that came out of the car. He started shouting, asking why I didnât call him, what was I doing here? I told him to take us to his parents, and that we came to see his parents.
He asked us to enter the car, which we did, thinking he was taking us to his parents.
No, he didnât take us to his parents; rather, he took us elsewhere so that we wouldnât create a scene.
Long story short, he called his brother, and he said he should give my mum his phone. He started telling my mum that we cannot go to his parentsâ house to break that kind of news to him, that his dad is hypertensive, his father is going to be shocked; we should please leave that he will handle it himself.
It was getting late, and my kids started crying; we went to lodge in a guest house to pass the night; it was a long journey,
The next morning we left ondo for Auchi few days later he called me on WhatsApp. This guy started raining abuses on me, saying stuff like I took my mum to his place, we embarrassed ourselves, that I was stupid, what was I thinking, that he was going to marry me? I told him I donâWant to marry him either. that he should just take care of his children; those kids are innocent; they canât suffer because of our mistakes.
This guy said over his dead body that he told me he doesnât need children; he insulted me and my family to the extent I started crying.
I blocked his number and deleted it from my phone.
PS: please avoid Premarital S*x By All Means.
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