29/08/2026
Be the Friend You Want to Have🤗
*If you want a friend, be friendly*. Proverbs 18:24 says "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…”
I am sure you have a check list of the type of friends you want
✔️I want a friend who checks on me.
✔️I want someone who celebrates me.
✔️I want someone I can trust.
✔️I want someone who will be there when life gets hard.
✔️I want someone who will pray for me.
And there is nothing wrong with wanting those things. But perhaps we need to ask ourselves a different question:
*Am I becoming the kind of friend I am asking God to give me? In other words, friendship requires participation.*
We cannot spend our lives waiting for someone else to make the first move. If you want friendship, you have to be willing to be friendly.
Friendship Is Not Just About What You Receive..Sometimes we approach friendship with a consumer mindset.
❌What can this friendship give me?
❌Who will encourage me?
❌Who will call me?
❌Who will remember my birthday?
❌Who will support me?
❌Who will show up for me?
But healthy friendship asks a different question:
🎯What am I bringing into this relationship?
🎯Can people trust me with their vulnerable moments?
🎯Do I celebrate my friends without secretly competing with them?
🎯Do I check on peopleor do I only respond when they check on me?
Because friendship isn't simply about finding your people. Sometimes it's about becoming someone else's person.
Friendship rarely grows by accident. So if we want meaningful friendships, we have to be intentional.
Friendship requires vulnerability. You cannot build deep relationships while constantly keeping everyone at arm's length.
You cannot expect meaningful connection without making yourself available for connection.
Sometimes you have to take the first step.
Being a good friend doesn't mean saying yes to everything. It doesn't mean ignoring unhealthy behavior.
Healthy friendship has both love and boundaries.
Today, instead of asking, “Why don't I have better friends?”
Pause and ask:“What kind of friend am I?”
Self Reflection:
If someone described me as a friend, what would they say? Is that the kind of friend I want to be?
PFFW