Take.backyourlife

08/03/2026

Oba style

07/03/2026

Let me drop this here..it's been a min.

18/02/2026

Let's talk about prevention in substance abuse. Please like, comment, share, follow my page here and on tik tok. God bless all

12/12/2025

As December arrives, bringing with it the festive spirit, it's essential to acknowledge the potential risks associated with overindulgence. The excitement of Christmas celebrations can lead to the development of detrimental habits, such as excessive drinking, smoking, or reckless behavior. To navigate these challenges, individuals seeking to maintain their well-being may wonder how to balance enjoyment with self-control. Several strategies can be employed to manage the allure of excessive festivities. How can one effectively handle the excitement and its seductive pull?

Immediate Calming Techniques
Deep Breathing: Focus on slow, deep diaphragmatic breaths to calm your nervous system.
Grounding: Focus on your heartbeats or physical sensations, or try a cold shower to reset your senses.
Mindful Observation: Allow the feeling of excitement without judgment, then write down the thought/idea to address later when calm.
Distraction: Engage in a different activity like listening to soothing music, playing a game, or walking. Simply walk away is more effective.

Mindset Shifts
Think Ahead: Briefly consider the consequences of overreacting to stay grounded.
Absorb & Compose: Build internal calm so your response is logical, not just hype-driven.
Be Honest: Acknowledge the excitement but choose a more mature, controlled response.

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God bless you all this season.

10/12/2025

In psychology, projection is a defense mechanism where people unconsciously attribute their own unacceptable feelings, impulses, or traits onto others to avoid confronting them internally, like an insecure person accusing their partner of being unfaithful. It helps manage distress by shifting blame or discomfort outwards, but it distorts reality, harms relationships, and can stem from issues like anxiety or personality disorders, though self-awareness and mindfulness can help manage it.

How Projection Works
Attributing Unwanted Traits: You deny having a quality (e.g., selfishness) and instead see it in someone else, accusing them of being selfish.
Misinterpreting Actions: You believe someone else feels a certain way because you feel that way, such as thinking a coworker dislikes you when you're feeling insecure about your work.
Defense Against Guilt/Anxiety: It's easier to externalize negative feelings than to acknowledge them, preventing internal conflict.

Common Examples
Infidelity: A cheating partner accuses their spouse of being unfaithful.
Insecurity: Someone struggling with self-esteem bullies another person about their flaws.
Blame: A person who started a fight blames someone else for initiating it.

Why It's a Problem
Damages Relationships: Creates resentment and misunderstanding by assigning false motives.
Obscures Reality: Prevents addressing the actual internal issue.
Can Indicate Deeper Issues: Often linked to anxiety, depression, or personality disorders (like Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder).

Addressing Projection
Self-Awareness: Recognizing when you might be projecting is the first step.
Mindfulness: Focusing on present feelings without judgment helps you identify them as your own.
Therapy: Psychotherapy can help address underlying conditions and develop healthier coping strategies.

08/12/2025

Its HEALING MONDAY and today I wanna share an art from Japan called kintsukuroi (golden repair). To see beauty in broken. This practice is deeply connected to the Japanese philosophy of wabi-sabi, which values finding beauty in the flawed, imperfect, and transient nature of existence.

Key aspects of Kintsugi:
1.Highlighting the damage: Rather than hiding the cracks and breaks, kintsugi emphasizes them with gold (or sometimes silver or platinum) to showcase the object's history and journey.
2.A philosophy of resilience: The technique embodies the idea that breakage and repair are valuable parts of an object's life, and the mended piece becomes more beautiful and stronger for having been broken.
3.Traditional materials: The process traditionally uses urushi, a natural and durable lacquer made from the sap of an indigenous tree, combined with metallic powder.

Types of repair:
Crack (Hibi): Mending simple cracks with minimal filler.
Piece m**hod (Urauchi): Using a gold/lacquer compound to replace missing fragments entirely.
Joint-call (Yobitsugi): Incorporating a similarly shaped but non-matching fragment from another object to create a patchwork effect.
Kintsugi is more than a repair m**hod; it is a powerful metaphor for healing, resilience, and embracing imperfections in both objects and life.

Now relate this to the struggle of getting your life back on track after the effects of addiction of any sought has pieced it. You will always be a recovering addict if you have taken that step however you can find strength is facing and dealing with it and healing is possible and I dare say it will become a source of strength and motivation to do right and become even more beautiful as a person to yourself, family, friends and the world.

God bless you today.

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05/12/2025

Sobriety doesn't mean you have to be strong every day. It's okay to feel tired, frustrated, or even broken. Just DON'T GIVE UP.

05/12/2025

05/12/2025

Addiction ate deep and I mean deep into every fibre of my being. I, from a good home, my parents and everyone in my home are Christians, we pray and even speak in the language the holy spirit yet I was still slave to addiction why? Lack of knowledge, lack of conviction or resolve and while there is the place of prayer in recovery you need to understand the effort you will have to put in to stay sober. God never gives you a challenge He won't walk through with you however it won't be how you think he would. He will give you people or a person to help you through, chances to make the right call or decision. I made the choice to do right for myself and if you are an addict have you? If you are still an active addict make the choice to claw your way out through determination and grit. Either I get out of addiction or I die...that was my mentality and today I am better for it..was it easy NO however am I glad I made the choice Yes! I am more than happy to share my story with any and everyone and connect you to professional help if need be for yourself, a friend or family member...God bless you all ❤️❤️

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26/08/2025

ICE is the dangerous drug destroying Nigerian youths, including their well being and state of mind and the effect in our society at large.

What is Ice?
Ice has become a serious issue in the Nigeria with thousands of youths addicted to the drug.
ice is the slang name for a very dangerous hard drug called M**hamphetamine or Crystal M**h.
It looks like Ice Block and can be blue in color sometimes. Ice is known by experts to be one of the hardest drug addictions to treat.
It is very addictive and affects the central nervous system of whoever takes it. It creates a feeling of massive happiness that is very addictive and makes the taker want to fly.
When the effect wears off, the taker tries to have that feeling again thereby taking it again.

How Can You Know Someone Who Is Addicted?
According to WebMD, these are the signs of someone with serious m**h addiction?
- Tattered dressing and shabby looks
- Always picking at hair or skin
- Loss of appetite and weight loss
- Moving eyes about every time
- Strange sleeping patterns; staying up for days or even weeks at a time
- Always talking nonstop
- Borrowing money often, selling possessions, or stealing
- Angry outbursts or mood swings
- Psychotic behavior, such as paranoia and hallucinations

What does Ice do to your body?
- High body temperature and possible risk of death
- Unable to sleep
- The user ages fast and looks sick with lots of pimples
Therapy and Cure for Ice
- There is no drug that can cure ice addiction. This is what makes it so dangerous.
- The only treatment is behavioural therapy which we area now sure is available in Nigeria now.
PLEASE STAY AWAY FROM ICE !!!
There is no quick cure or drug for the addiction and the therapy cure is not readily available in Nigeria.

24/08/2025

Laziness (the big bro of procrastination)
Laziness is the inability to carry out an activity or exercise even when energy is available. The opposite of hard work or diligence. The enemy of progress. A trick on the mind to make believe some things are not achievable so don't even try. Choosing sleep over everything else or liking sleep too much.

How laziness affects individuals
*Too much sleep affects the health
*It affects work habits which would hurt your career
*People loose trust in your ability no matter how talented
*Hard work beats skill any day
*A lazy person can never be on time
*Laziness fights excellence
*Welcome to poverty

Some characteristics of a lazy person
*Always giving excuses
*Waiting for others to do what can be done alone
*Procrastination
*Not doing the right thing at the right time
*Playing blame games
*Searching for praise when done with anything
*Spending time idle