19/03/2026
REBUILDING IDENTITY AFTER LOSS .
During our peer support group we discussed how to get back up!
1. Who am I now?
Loss changes you—it doesn’t erase you.
Take time to rediscover yourself, you are still worthy, still whole, even in pain.
2. Do not blame yourself.
You did your best with what you knew and had at the time.
Release guilt gently—your story is not one of failure, but of love.
3. What triggers me? What helps me?
Notice what brings waves of pain—places, dates, words, memories.
Also notice what brings comfort—prayer, talking, rest, nature, support.
Give yourself permission to protect your peace.
4. Write down small goals and routines for your day
Healing doesn’t happen all at once.
Simple routines—waking up, eating, resting, connecting—can slowly rebuild stability.
Small steps are still progress.
5. Ways I honour my baby
Love doesn’t end with loss.
You can honour your baby in your own way:
Saying their name
Lighting a candle
Helping other mothers
Creating something in their memory
Praying or reflecting
There is no “right” way—only your way.