12/10/2022
THE TYPICAL URHOBO MAN WHO BELIEVED AND PRACTICE TRADITIONS AND CULTURE TO THE FULLEST.
(1)When going to the farm in the morning with his family, he will be in the front followed by the children,
with the wife at the back (last)
On returning home in the evening, his wife will be in front and the children in the middle while following them from the rear.
(2)He don't go to the farm on market day (Edewor/Edeki).
He believed that spirit are also holding their market that same day in the bush.
(3)To sleep with his wife in the same bed, the wife will be at the wall side and if she's pregnant, she must not cross him before coming down from the bed. She will excuse him and he will adjust for her to come down.
(4)A particular chair in the house is specially made for him, they don't allow anyone to sit on it unless by his permission even though he's not around. Others are Cup, Broken plate (Osete) and Evwere for his food consumption.
(5)He will never sleep in the same bed with his wife if she's under mensuration.
(6)He preferred his wife to sit beside him with a towel or handkerchief in her hand when eating his dinner.
(7)If he got married to more than one wife, he will share the sleeping turn/days(Edughen)among them and the one having her day will bath and dress herself looking more attractive and will enter the bedroom with a cup of powder, spray and rub his chest and neck with it before the night show will commence.
(8)If he killed a bushmeat or slaughter chicken, the lever, gizzards and the heart is a no go area for anybody except him.
(9)A typical Urhobo man will never beat his wife, he rejects her food and sleeping with her until she bring a family member or a friend of her husband to plead on her behalf and settle the matter.
(10)Because he's a Pagan, when he wake up in the morning, he performed his morning devotion by himself. He will brings out a bottle of Ogogoro and glass and move to the left side of the main door (parlour), he will call the names of his ancestors pleading and remembering them to protect him and his family, that the day road is hungry and tasty for blood they should not allow him and his family to enter road. At the end of the incantations and intersiding for his family home and abroad, he will empty a full glass of drink for them before serving himself.
SOME OF THE THINGS A TYPICAL URHOBO MAN USED TO DO THAT YOU MIGHT LOVE OR HATE.
(1)You dare not cheat a typical Urhobo in anyway, such as snatching his wife or beat her. Even if he tied wrapper, he will removed it from his waist and you will be surprised that he's wearing short nickker or a folded trouser under the wrapper.
(2)He preferred his wives should be shared among his family or grown up children after his demise.
NOTE.
This is our culture, our fathers and mothers inherited it from their ancestors before the coming of Christianity.
Please I humble myself to plead with all members of the group never to condemn your culture in totality. East or west, Urhobo culture still remains one of the best.
There's a particular tribe hear in the North whereby if you pay your good friend a visit, he will give you his wife to sleep with her right inside his house as a special Kolanut. It's their culture and they are proud of it to the highest esteem.
