29/01/2026
“You are an essential part of your child’s life, and your voice matters.”
Kirsten shares how becoming a mum to a deaf child turned her into an advocate – and the practical ways that support both her child’s and her own wellbeing.
“Parenting any child means holding space for big emotions, growth and the ups and downs of daily life, and parenting a deaf child adds advocacy, accessibility and intentional communication into that mix.
Sometimes it’s easy to get bogged down in advocacy: fighting for the right support to be in place, psyching yourself up for meetings, paperwork and the constant mental checklist of 'How can we make it accessible?’
We advocate because when things are accessible, our children feel included and supported – the essentials for good mental health. As parents of a deaf child, often our own mental health needs some nurturing, too. With that in mind, I’ve put together some tips for families:
1. Get to know your child’s signs of listening fatigue. When we spot the signs, we can do things like building in listening breaks.
2. Support them to find deaf peers and deaf role models. This reminds them they’re not the only one.
3. Help them build resilience. Show them how to advocate for themselves, remind them they can do hard things, encourage problem-solving and be a safe space for them to show their struggles and biggest emotions.
4. Find your village! This could be other parents (including parents of older deaf children) and deaf people who understand from personal experience.
5. Remind yourself that it’s OK to not be everything to your children. We might not have experience of being deaf, and that’s OK.
6. Be a confident advocate. You are an essential part of your child’s life, and your voice matters. Advocacy is like a muscle. Working on it in small, safe environments can help build it for the bigger stuff.
7. Pick your battles. Assess which battles can be left and which need to be fought, as it can help you feel more confident and able.”
Read Kirsten’s full blog on our website: https://ndcs.org.uk/advice-and-support/real-life-stories/mental-health-and-raising-deaf-child-what-ive-learned.
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