Butterfly Books for Baby Loss

Butterfly Books for Baby Loss In memory of babies we gift beautiful story books and loss books to bereaved parents at the followin

Providing loss books and baby story books to grieving parents using PAH in Southampton

16/12/2025

🎁 What belongs in your Christmas Stocking When You’re Grieving?

This stocking isn’t about real gifts. It’s about space - to feel, protect your heart and make choices that support your grief and your wellbeing. Christmas doesn’t need to be merry or bright to matter; sometimes, it just needs to be manageable and that's ok.

1. Give Yourself Permission To:
Say no to plans, traditions, expectations or anything that feels too much.
Say yes and step back, keep it simple, do only what you feel able.
Grieve no matter how early your loss - your grief is valid and the saying 'the greatest grief in the world is your own' is so true.

2. Memories
Add a special decoration to your tree, light a candle, take a walk, visit a special place. However you choose to remember them, there is no right or wrong only what feels right for you.

3. Pause
Add a quiet moment just for you. Make a cuppa, practice mindful breathing or cry if you need to - you'll feel better for it. Grief can be exhausting so resting isn’t avoidance - it’s taking care of you.

4. Boundaries
Limit social media, grief comparisons, or difficult conversations. You. Don’t. Owe. Anyone. Your. Energy.

5. Joy and Gratitude
Grieving doesn't mean being sad all the time. Take some moments to sit in the sun, listen to the birds, breathe deeply and take it all in. Life may not be as you planned or wanted, but you can still take joy in things and be grateful for what you do have.

6. Kindness to Yourself
A reminder that it’s okay not to feel festive. It’s okay if the day feels heavy, empty, or just ordinary. Give yourself the compassion you would give others.

7. Comfort
Whatever brings a small sense of safety - soft clothes, familiar films, snuggly blanket or a quiet corner.

8. Support
Have a list of people you can contact when grief hits and a reminder that reaching out does not make you a burden. Add Philip's Footprints to your list too - even on Christmas Day - we're here for you too.

Christmas after any loss can feel heavy and complicated. Give yourself grace. Do what you can, step back when you need to, and know that however you move through this season - it's enough ❤🎄

09/11/2025

Early Miscarriage Awareness Day - 9th November

Too often, early miscarriage is not spoken of, or acknowledged and if it is, the depth of our loss may not be taken seriously. Sometimes our love for a baby, our 'emotional investment' can begin long before we are even pregnant. And when we lose that baby, it really hurts. We grieve for our baby and the loss of the future we may have planned.

There is no sliding scale of grief, our pain of loss does not equal how many weeks pregnant we were, we only know that our baby was real and our grief is real. And at Philip's Footprints we truly understand that a little baby is not a little loss.

Please join us again this year as we light a candle at 7pm tonight for at least one hour, and remember all the tiny babies who lit up our lives for such a short time.

We are always here for you ❤️ and support also available from Miscarriage Association

01/11/2025

Today, 1st November is not only All Saints Day but 'DĂ­a de los Angelitos (Day of the Little Angels), a day just to remember babies and children who have died. Tomorrow is the 'Dia de los Mu***os' (Day of the Dead) a Mexican holiday, rooted in ancient celebration by Aztecs who found sadness to be disrespectful to the deceased. Instead of mourning their loved ones, they would celebrate their spirit.

People remember and honour family and loved ones, decorating graves and altars with photos, food and offerings and lighting with candles at night.

How lovely to have this special day for their families and loved ones to honour their memory and to have this custom that makes remembering them, all of their loved ones, such a part of normal life ❤

10/10/2025

As part of Baby Loss Awareness Week Thursday 9 to Wednesday 15 October), our Maternity Bereavement Team will be holding their Annual Service of Remembrance and Hope on Saturday 11 October at 3pm at St Augustine's Church, Rock Avenue, Gillingham, from 3pm on Saturday 11 October. 🕯️ 💙 💗

Our dedicated team is here to support families who have experienced the loss of a baby through our maternity, gynaecology, or neonatal services.

09/10/2025

Sending love to all of the babies in Heaven and their families on Earth. Shine on in paradise little angels.

30/03/2025

Sending love to all of the mums in the world who have babies and children in Heaven.

12/03/2025

Leave For Every Loss – pre-24 week loss to be recognised as bereavement.

Today, the Government has committed to granting bereavement leave to anyone affected by pre-24 week pregnancy loss. This is an important step forward, and we look forward to hearing the detail of how this change in employment law will be implemented.

Our CEO, Vicki Robinson, said:

“We are extremely pleased to see, that for the first time ever, those experiencing pre-24-week pregnancy loss will be officially recognised in bereavement leave legislation.

“The Government’s commitment that pre-24 week pregnancy loss will be included in bereavement leave law, via the Employment Rights Bill, is an important milestone, and provides long-overdue validation that this type of loss can be experienced as a bereavement like any other.

“This achievement reflects the tireless efforts of the Miscarriage Association, Sarah Owen MP, our partner organisations, and individuals in calling for change through our Leave for Every Loss campaign.

“Whilst this is a very positive and welcome step forward, we are committed to engage with the Government as the Bill passes through the next stages to ensure it is enshrined in legislation and the details fully support our community.”

We hope you will join us in continuing to advocate for those going through the heartbreak of pregnancy loss.

Find out more about today’s updates here: https://ow.ly/z3bc50VfZr1

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Sarah Owen MP Sands, the stillbirth & neonatal death charity Tommy's The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust Aching Arms UK NCT Trades Union Congress (TUC) Co-op Footprints Baby Loss Little Wings of Hope CIC Anam Cara Fasgadh MISS The Worst Girl Gang Ever Public Page NASUWT Pregnant Then Screwed

From our households to yours.
01/01/2025

From our households to yours.

15/10/2024

If you can, please light a candle at 7pm tonight for all of our babies in heaven.

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