Women who love too much

08/04/2025

Last week we embarked on this journey of self discovery.
When doing that, my mind was set already on the next step (getting to explore our NEEDS) but boy oh boy was I surprised to see the vastness of our inner world and how in a week, we barely scratch the surface! 😊
It was interesting to find out during our meeting, that we arrived to the same conclusion, that there is SO MUCH to know about ourselves and we definitely need more time to do so. And that’s more than ok, we learn to relax and enjoy the process and create this safe space to explore and discover who we truly are.
We learn to treat ourselves exactly how we would want our current/envisioned partner to treat us: with love, patience, kindness, compassion and understanding. Developing that caring and supportive voice inside of ourselves creates SO MUCH SAFETY. We could feel it only by talking about it, now it’s time to put it into practice, lovingly, day by day.
So now we give ourselves the chance to discover even further who we are, what our passions, interests, values, desires and dreams are. As an anxiously attached person, all we ever wanted most of our lives was “A relationship” that we hoped would bring us connection and the feeling of safety, acceptance and worthiness. For so many years we desperately went for “A relationship", ignoring what we TRULLY want, that would actually lead us to “THE relationship”. Not just any! But the one that truly fulfils us. So in order to get there, we need to know who we are and what we want!
So let’s explore some more. Let’s look further into our values, interests, preferences, etc. Let’s see where we are and where we want to get. Let’s see what is preventing us to get there, and what roadblocks ( aka limiting beliefs) are in the way.
See you in our next meeting, Friday, April 25th, 5pm BST 🤗
If you would like to join us on this journey, connect with us in this private group https://www.facebook.com/groups/509060852209095/

07/04/2025

Whether we are anxiously attached or an avoidant ( or a mix of both), we all strive to become Secure attached in relationships. We want to feel safe and whole on our own. We want to heal those parts in us that make it so difficult to trust, to let go of the grasp or the struggle! We want to feel at ease when being with someone, we want to find peace and that love that stays unconditionally.

Our initial impulse is to go somewhere OUT THERE to find it…or even better, find HIM!!! Or to find that someone that will make us all better again. We want to find that healer that heals all wounds inside of us…. And we found Her, the Healer is (in) Ourselves.

- Ok…but what do we even start with?
- We start by CREATING SAFETY WITHIN OURSELVES
- And how do we do that??
- One step in front of the other. We start by starting self exploration, getting to know who we are. What are my interests, my passions, my values, what brings me joy, what is important to me, how do I make sure that I live according to my values, what are my preferences in all areas of my life, what do I want in a relationship? Do I want to get married, do I want to have kids? How do I want to raise them? How do I want to be supported by my partner? Financial providership? How do I want to spend my free time with my partner? What common values do I want to have with my partner?
- And then? Then we discuss about NEEDS
- And then?
- And then we discuss BOUNDARIES. But let’s not rush and just enjoy the process! One step in front of the other my love, trust the process. For this week is about Knowing yourself! See you in the meeting on Tuesday, 7pm UK time. https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1B5QsgWZQG/?mibextid=K35XfP

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03/03/2025

Thank you for all of you that have shown interest in this page and a warm welcome to those that have joined the private page, created to hold a safe space for us to express ourselves and to receive information on the next meetings that will take place!

Aim is to start with an online meeting, next Wednesday 7pm UK time, so that we get to know each other, discuss on the intention of the group and establish follow up meetings in person or online. Invite will be posted on the private group.

24/02/2025

In order to create a safe space for us, following guidelines are advised:

- The meeting starts on time. This will make it clear to all the participants involved that they must be punctual at future meetings.
- It is desired that this group develops as a source of permanent support for all persons, including those who formed the group
- Everything that is said during the meeting should never be discussed elsewhere. The persons in question should introduce themselves simply using their first name.
- It is useful for everyone to explain their reasons for joining the group, speaking on this topic for a maximum of five minutes. None of the participants is obliged to speak that much, it is a personal choice
- After everyone has shared their story, turn your attention to those who did not want to speak when it was their turn and gently ask them if they would like to do so now. Don't force anyone to talk. Make it very clear that everyone is welcome whether or not she is ready to talk about her situation.
- Don't give any advise to anybody. All participants are welcome to share their experiences and say what helped them feel better, but no one should give anyone else advice on what they should do. You can tactfully draw attention to someone who forgets this rule.
- Meetings must be led by rotation (weekly) each time by a different participant. It is the responsibility of the leader to start the meeting on time, to choose a topic for discussion, to reserve a few minutes at the end of the meeting for various issues and to choose another leader for the following week before the end of the meeting.
- Meetings should have a well-defined duration. I recommend an hour. No one will be able to solve all their problems in one session, and you shouldn't even try to do so. Meetings must start and end on time.


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24/02/2025

These are the characteristics of a woman who has overcome her pattern of excessive love:

- She fully accepts herself, even when she wants to change some aspects of her personality. There is an elemental love and self-care that she carefully maintains and deliberately expands.
- She accepts others as they are, without trying to change them to satisfy her needs.
- She is aware of her feelings and beliefs regarding any aspect of her life, including her own sexuality.
- She appreciates every aspect of her being: personality, appearance, beliefs and values, body, interests and accomplishments. She gives herself the confirmations she needs, rather than looking for a relationship that will instil in her a sense of self-appreciation.
- Her self-esteem is high enough to enjoy the company of other people, especially men, whom she does not feel the need to change. She doesn't even feel the need to be useful, to gain awareness of her own value.
- She appears open and confident to the right people. She is not afraid to be known on a deep level, but she also does not expose herself to the risk of being exploited by those who are not interested in her happiness.
- She asks herself, “Is this relationship beneficial for me? Does it allow me to reach my full potential?
- When a relationship is destructive, she can give it up without suffering a crushing depression. She has a circle of friends who support her and healthy interests that help her overcome moments of crisis.
- Above all, she values her own serenity. All the fights, dramas and chaos of the past have lost their power of attraction. She protects herself, defending her health and happiness.
- She knows that, in order to work, a relationship must be established between partners who share similar values, interests and objectives, and who have the ability to establish close relationships. She also knows that she deserves the best in life.


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24/02/2025

Suggested topics of discussion:

- Patterns in my life, how and when do I get triggered.
- Boundaries. What, how( to set them and mean it) and why
- Safe communication
- Acceptance of what I cannot change
- Courage to change the things I can
- Self worth
- Letting go of shame and blame
- Ways of self care
- What makes me happy, what are my hobbies, dreams and wishes
- Why do I need this group
- Guilt and resentment
- What are my biggest fears
- What I like most and least about myself
- How I take care of myself and satisfy my own needs
- Loneliness
- How do I deal with depression?
- My beliefs towards sexuality: what they are and where they come from
- Anger: how I manage my anger and that of others
- How I relate to men
- What I believe people think about me
- The responsibilities I have for myself; the responsibilities I have towards others
- My spirituality (it is not a discussion about religious beliefs, but about how each participant feels their own spiritual dimension)
- How do we stop blaming others and ourselves


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24/02/2025

I felt inspired by Robin Norwood to create this group for women who find themselves constantly giving too much in their relationships and struggling to prioritize their own needs.
Whether you find yourself constantly attracting emotionally unavailable partners or putting others' needs before your own, this group is a safe space to explore the reasons behind these patterns and learn healthy boundaries and self-care practices.
The intention is to form a support group that would meet face to face in Milton Keynes, UK, aiming to connect and support each other to cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships with ourselves and with others. Online meetings are also possible, depending on the location of the participants.


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24/02/2025

Welcome to the Women Who Love Too Much group, created based on the principles and amazing teachings of the book with the same name. I felt inspired by Robin Norwood to create this group for women who find themselves constantly giving too much in their relationships and struggling to prioritize their own needs.
Whether you find yourself constantly attracting emotionally unavailable partners or putting others' needs before your own, this group is a safe space to explore the reasons behind these patterns and learn healthy boundaries and self-care practices.
The intention is to form a support group that would meet face to face in Milton Keynes, aiming to connect and support eachother to cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships with ourselves and with others. Online meetings are also possible, depending on the location of the participants.

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