11/10/2025
Thoroughly recommend and support Lindzi for her work on supporting People with A Different Human Design
"There can be a lot of shame added to the ADHD experience."
There's the difficulties that ADHD introduces to our lives.
Then there's the shame around our difficulties - our mistakes, our poor decisions, poor control, our uselessness.
This is how we can view it... that we're basically just rubbish human beings. And the SHAME. The painful, all-consuming shame.
I often got called out for my tendency to interrupt, get loud and excitable and tell a "me too" story in response to things told to me.
So I adapted by guarding these aspects of myself, shrinking these parts to fit expectations and not cause offence.
Then, when I forget myself and do it causing a "sshhhh" (a sound I actually hate as well ๐คฃ) or upsetting someone with my interruptions, omg the shame is horrendous because it's an automatic, in-built cycle reinforced for years and years.
The shame is triggered and experienced in so many ways and for lots of ADHDers is a huge part of their lives - possibly being mistaken as ADHD itself.
The good news is, it's an area that can be supported and even overcome ๐ it takes effort, focus and work ๐ช but, you can reach a life where shame is a passing feeling not a normal part of life, or a disabling experience ๐โจ๏ธ
Areas to focus on: building self-esteem, routines & structure, general lifestyle, understand projection - the idea that people really are mirrors ๐ช
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