Community of Support Fergus/Elora

10/14/2026

In healing grief or anything, you eventually get to a point we're there is less and less feeling sorry for yourself and being stuck in self pitty. There is a point we're you are able to see outside of yourself and maybe understand why someone acted the way they did or why the loss may have happened. I think this step is important and it does not excuse someone's behavior or what happened, but it let's you keep an open mind to things beyond yourself. Having an understanding of events may help you in your own healing and let you move through it a little bit.

10/11/2026

10/03/2026

All you can do is take things one day at a time

09/09/2026

You always hear people saying, 'tell people you love them'. Just incase something bad happens.
This leaves you thinking that every interaction should be pleasant and fake. The reality is that people are human and not every interaction goes smoothly. I think a lot of people beat themselves up after a loved one passes away. They replay the last interaction and things that were said and they bring themselves down because they think they should have it said something differently. This causes so many problems during the grief process and can really hold you back.
1. That person knew you loved them
2. You are human and the other person was human, so feelings and emotions are going to happen
3. The huge reality is not every single moment you're here on earth is perfect. Mistakes happen. Words happen. Feelings get hurt.
Those things don't mean that there was no love.
We can't suppress who we are and what we feel in the moment because it might be their last. We're allowed to be angry, sad, frustrated,.disappointed etc... Again I will say, It doesn't mean there is a lack of love. So stop beating yourself up. They knew you loved them. You're allowed to be human. Let go if that guilt and let yourself heal.

09/02/2026

Was planning on coffee tonight and then I got an Ontario wide alert on my phone and then checked the weather. The weather Probably won't amount to anything but Im choosing to stay home with my Daughter just incase. Be safe out there

09/02/2026

Healing doesn't happen when you're in the thick of it and can't see straight. Healing happens in those moments you are still and quiet. When life is calm and you are able to think clearly and sit with yourself.
Sometimes you have to let yourself be still and let life calm down enough for you to think and feel yourself out of an emotionally hard time. Doing more is not always the answer. Sometimes less is more.

08/26/2026

I will not be going to coffee tonight but feel free to go and get out of the house. 7pm Starbucks in Fergus

08/24/2026

It's weird how the death of a family member you hardly see doesn't effect your everyday life and you may have to actually think how long it been since they passed away. However loosing someone close to you can shift your whole entire reality. When someone asks when they passed, you can tell the exact day and exactly how long it's been without thinking about it. Finding your new 'normal' can be very hard emotionally.
That's why I don't understand why some people get so upset over celebrities passing away. Yeah it sucks, cause death always sucks, but your life stays the same. It doesn't effect you in the slightest. It's easier on you then that relative you hardly see.

08/19/2026

Deep down we all know that life is uncertain but, it's buried deep and we ignore it. Thinking whatever we are doing in our lives whatever our relationship is forever. When something is going on and all of a sudden uncertainty is hanging over your head. You can't fully rest in life. You are never truly at ease because you know the future is uncertain and it's starting you in the face.
My story different then most but the feelings are the same.
I had that feeling once my spouse was deep into her transitioning. I had married them and had thoughts about growing old together and retirement etc..... Then all of a sudden my Husband was turning into my Wife? What did our future look like now? What did this all mean? The vision I had in my head and what I had signed up for the day we got married, was now something that wasn't in the plan. So where did this leave me?
Thoughts that so many struggle with for different reasons but again the feelings are similar.
Now Im no longer living in survival mode with all thses thoughts floating around my head. The last year and a bit life has been quiet and boring. And Im glad for that. I feel for the first time ever I can just sit and chill. Time to build some roots that won't be uprooted. I no longer want to accept uncertainty in my life. I hate the feeling of that hanging over my head.