10/15/2025
🎤 Youth Talk: “Your Life, Your Voice”
Hey everyone,
I want to share a part of my story — not because it’s perfect, but because I know some of you might be going through the same thing.
When I got pregnant, things changed fast. After my baby’s father and I were given a room to stay in by my dad, I thought we’d start building a life. But right after I gave birth, he left. Just said he was going to find work in another city — and disappeared.
I was young, alone with a newborn, and back at home. But instead of support, I got blamed. My mom was angry. She kept saying I had chosen the wrong man. That I should’ve married the guy she wanted — a traditional healer with money, someone older, someone I didn’t love. She believed he could have changed all our lives.
She threatened to send me and my son to go live with him. Said I owed it to her. That if I cared about her and my dad, I would do it. She even compared me to other girls who had arranged marriages and helped their families through it.
But deep down, I knew that life wasn’t for me. I didn’t want to be someone’s “solution.” I didn’t want to give up my freedom, my choice, or my future — just to please everyone else.
So, I found a way to protect myself and my son. I wrote fake letters, pretending they were from my baby’s father, and put some money inside — money I had earned helping my mom. I gave the letters to her, and when she saw the money, she believed he was still around, still supporting us. And just like that, she stopped pressuring me. She treated me better. I had some peace.
It wasn’t easy. And it wasn’t the life I imagined. But I learned something:
💡 Sometimes survival doesn’t look like big wins. Sometimes, it looks like small steps, quiet strength, and finding smart ways to stand your ground.
To any young person listening right now — if you feel trapped, judged, or pushed into things you don’t want — please hear me:
✨ You are not a failure.
✨ You are not a burden.
✨ You have the right to choose your own path — even if others don’t agree with it.
You might not have money. You might not have support. But you have a voice, a mind, and a future that’s still yours. You don’t have to become someone else’s idea of success to be worthy.
Stand firm. Be wise. Use your voice. Protect your peace. And don’t forget: your story is still being written.
Thank you.