08/27/2024
Ladies if you are on Facebook Dating, you may encounter him there! BEWARE and run the opposite direction!! He currently lives in Ladysmith.
He is an incredibly controlling narcissist that will change your life for the worse! He is a serial, using and abusing Gi**lo that will take advantage of you and very likely create undo financial hardship. He’s a scammer and a fraud. I'm sure I wasn't the first and am already not the last to be played by him. He wants to be a kept man and he doesn’t have much drive to be employed. He tries to have an injury and be on WCB or EI so he doesn’t have to work. He was waiting for his WCB claim to be approved when we met… it was supposed to be coming through within the week.
At first, he is very sweet and charming and will tell you everything you want to hear. He will treat you lovingly and fawn all over you. He’ll love-bomb you and be very affectionate. You’ll be the best thing that has ever happened to him and you will make him a better person. He is a talented musician and he’ll sing to you and write songs about you. He’ll promise you the world, but the promises never come to fruition. He’ll buy you some things at first to rope you in and make himself look like he’s a catch. Trust me, he is NOT.
And then the controlling begins… when you’re not at work, you’ll have to be on the phone, texting, messenger or on Facetime ALL DAY LONG with him. He needs to know where you are and who you’re with every moment of every day. All of your actions will be monitored and criticized. I was scolded heavily when I had a very long phone conversation with my girlfriend, when I should have been talking to and paying attention to him!
I needed to move, so we got a new place together, while he waiting for his still WCB claim to be approved. He was in the protect of contesting his denial. He was expecting several months of back-pay. Needless to say, his claim was denied and the money never came through. He's a Boat Captain by trade and finally found work in Fort Mac when my money ran out, because he couldn’t find local work. He was supposed to send me money once he started to get his new big pay cheques. I got sent a meager amount once that didn’t even cover his share of rent for a month. Once he learned that he couldn’t control and manipulate me as he hoped, he blamed me for cheating on him (which I didn’t do) and left the relationship. All I did was meet an old friend, who happened to be male, to catch up after not connecting for over a decade! We met at a public beach and sat on the bench near the parking area. We only sat and talked, our conversation was completely plutonic and friendly. But it wasn’t “appropriate” for me to talk to another man or acceptable to him. He said that he considered that to be cheating and that betrayed his trust. Oh, the names he called me and the false accusations he made! He unjustly claimed I cheated so that HE could be the victim and try to justify his actions. He didn’t send any money after that and didn’t pay the hydro bill and the power got cut off, leaving me in the dark. All told, he owes me about $7000, which I will never see. I can’t afford it. He did not contribute to the security deposit, any rent, bills and I covered all his food (he’s a big man at 6’4” and eats a lot!), car insurance and phone bill. He is a gluten and a gaseous pig and has zero self control.
Now I need to get a roommate because I can’t afford the new rental on my own. He blocked me on FB, phone and email. He left his belongings and his crappy car behind, for me to deal with. He just walked away without any consequences, which is a pattern for him. He quickly found a new girl within a week, who was quickly becoming his next victim. (See post above) My friend found her as she noticed his change of relationship status. I sent her a message of warning, which she was so grateful for. She exited the relationship immediately, before she got hurt like I did. We then met in person, exchanged stories and wouldn’t you know it, his script and actions were the same for the both of us! He’s got it down to a science and is very convincing and manipulative. I was labelled the insane, conniving and cheating ex-girlfriend that broke his heart. She and I have since become fast friends, so at least something good came from it all! He quit his job due to “illness” so he could get medical tests done and claim Medical EI and came back to the Island (Ladysmith) to finally meet his “New Queen”, after they had been communicating for a month. Fortunately, my message of warning stopped her from ever meeting him in person and falling deeper. She avoided a world of hurt, control and manipulation! We made a plan to give him a good rude awakening and a taste of his own medicine of being played. We met him in person together. The moment of his public embarrassment was incredibly empowering and satisfying to stand up for ourselves and each other!
He has some very concerning control, anger and aggression issues and blames everyone else for everything. There are signs that he could have violent tendencies. He takes zero responsibility for his actions and is very negative and judgmental of others. He has 7 children and NONE of them want anything to do with him. There is a reason for that! He’ll tell you BS stories about his past, which makes him look like a victim and not the problem. He has lived across the country and throughout the US and has racked up debt and path of destruction behind him. In BC alone, he has 10 civil public notations and legal claims against him, including foreclosure, bankruptcy and property management companies. He’s going into his second bankruptcy. Lord only knows how many other claims he has racked up across the continent! Sadly, I learned about all this after it was too late. Had I known about any of this or did my due diligence to learn more about him, rather than being wooed, I would not have entertained him or be in this situation. It has been a hard lesson to learn!
So please Ladies, watch out for your friends and protect each other from this LOSER. Steer clear away from his guy! The only thing that will result is heartache, pain and ruin.
Lets stop other women from being hurt by "men" who do this to the unsuspecting and undeserving.
Stay safe and find yourself a nice guy that will treat you the way you deserve! Hugs of support and all the best to you in your search for a nice man!
