13/08/2025
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Are you ready for marriage or you will be taking a risk. The following formula is on based on Botswanaโs social patterns, economic realities, and research on long-term marriage stability. The higher the score the more ready you are and ready for a stable marriage.
๐๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
(A score of 75+ = โGood readinessโ)
๐.๐๐ ๐ & ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ-๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Bride 25โ30 years โ 25 pts
Bride 23โ24 or 31โ33 years โ 20 pts
Bride under 23 or over 33 โ 15 pts
Groom 28โ35 years โ 25 pts
Groom 26โ27 or 36โ38 years โ 20 pts
Groom under 26 or over 38 โ 15 pts
(Both partner ages are averaged)
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๐ข๐ง๐๐ง๐๐ข๐๐ฅ ๐๐ญ๐๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ-๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Combined monthly income P15,000+ and savings 3+ months living expenses โ 25 pts
Income P10,000โ14,999 and some savings โ 20 pts
Income P6,000โ9,999 and little/no savings โ 15 pts
Income under P6,000 โ 10 pts
๐. ๐๐๐ฎ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง & ๐๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ -๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Both have at least tertiary diploma/degree or stable vocational skill โ 15 pts
One partner tertiary, other at least Form 5 โ 10 pts
Neither has post-secondary โ 5 pts
๐. ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง-๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Known each other 3+ years & dated seriously 1+ years โ 15 pts
Known each other 1โ3 years โ 10 pts
Known each other < 1 year โ 5 pts
๐. ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ฅ & ๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ -๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Families met, lobola/bridal price discussions settled โ 10 pts
Families aware but no formal steps โ 5 pts
No family awareness โ 0 pts
๐.๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐๐๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ -๐๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
(Self-scored on honesty)
We can resolve conflict without insults/violence โ 5 pts
We have discussed children, finances, and faith โ 5 pts
๐๐๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ;
Add up your points:
85โ100 โ Excellent readiness (high stability potential)
75โ84 โ Good readiness (some minor gaps to work on)
60โ74 โ Caution (address weak areas before marrying)
Below 60 โ High risk (consider waiting)
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๐ ๐ซ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ค๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ซ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐จ๐ค๐จ๐ญ๐ฌ๐ ๐ ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ฅ๐ฐ๐๐ฉ๐. ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฎ๐๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐.
๐ ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ค๐๐ง๐ ๐ค๐๐ง๐ ๐จ ๐ข๐ญ๐๐ค๐๐ง๐๐ญ๐ฌ๐ ๐ ๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ง๐ฒ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ค๐๐ง๐ ๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ ๐ง๐ฒ๐๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ฌ๐ฐ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ญ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ?
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