05/07/2026
Dumelang BW Ladies
Anon please.
My story goes like this...
To this day, I still struggle to explain what happened to me. Bangwe ba ka nja setshego, bangwe will say I was just deeply in love, while others will say I was under a spell. Ga ke sa itse the truth anymore. Ke sharer my story ka gore maybe mongwe out there is going through something similar. Dingwaganyana tse di fitileng, ke ne ke bereka as a manager at a certain safari camp. I was still young, focused, respected at work, and I had big dreams. I wanted to build my future, ke nyale one day, ke nne le lelwapa laaka. That's when I met a woman from the housekeeping department. She was much older than me. Old enough to be my mother, if I'm being honest. She already had grown children, some of them almost my age. At first, we were just colleagues. She was kind, always smiling, always checking up on me. Before I knew it, I found myself thinking about her every minute of every day. I couldn't go a single day without seeing her. Fa a sa tla tirong, I felt empty. Fa a sa arabe my calls, I became restless. Looking back now, I don't even recognize that version of myself. Soon, we started dating. To me, nothing about our age difference mattered. I defended our relationship to anyone who questioned it. Ne ke dumela gore she was my soulmate. Then I started spending money on her. Not just small gifts. Ke reka groceries every month. I paid for almost everything in her house. Fa bana ba gagwe ba tlhoka sengwe, I was there. School fees, I helped. Furniture, I bought it. Building materials, I paid. Eventually, ka simolola go re agela ntlo ko ga gagwe gore re sute mo go e bana ba e dirisang using my own salary and savings. Every month, I would tell myself, "This is what a real man does. I am investing in my future wife." Meanwhile, her own money was never touched. Ne a nna a re it was being saved for our future. I never questioned it ka gore ne ke mo tshephile completely. My savings disappeared. My salary disappeared before month-end. Yet I was always happy to give more. The strange part is that none of it felt wrong. In my mind, I believed I wasn't doing enough. I always felt guilty whenever I couldn't give her everything she wanted. I even started talking about marriage. That's when my family became worried. Every time I went home, they would ask me the same question. "Go diragala eng ka wena?" "You've changed." "You don't think like yourself anymore."
I became angry whenever they spoke badly about her. I defended her with everything I had. I even stopped visiting home because I felt like ga ba batle go mpona ke itumetse. Unknown to me, my parents and siblings had reached a point where they believed something wasn't right. One day, while I was home, ne ba utswa my shirt. Ba e isa ko moruting and asked him to pray for me. I knew nothing about it. Days later... Something happened. It's difficult to explain. It's like I suddenly woke up from a very long dream. Maikutlo a ntse ke nale one a nyelela almost overnight. Lantlha mo ditsong, I started asking myself questions. Why was I spending all my money? Why was I building a house that wasn't even mine? Why was I taking care of children who were almost my age while my own future was falling apart? Why had I pushed away everyone who genuinely loved me? The more I thought about it, the more shocked I became. I left that relationship. Ne go se bonolo tota because she kept trying to convince me to come back, but this time my mind was clear. I focused on rebuilding my finances, repairing my relationship with my family, and finding myself again. Not long after, she resigned from work ka bogodi. Sometimes I still sit alone and think about everything I did. Was it just blind love? Was I manipulated? Was I under a spiritual influence? I honestly don't know. Se ke se itsing ke gore if my family hadn't refused to give up on me, ga ke itse gore nkabo ke le kae today. I'm not posting this to shame anyone or to start arguments about religion or traditional beliefs. I'm simply sharing my experience as I lived it. Bomma, have you ever witnessed someone completely change because of a relationship? Do you believe such situations are always just love, or do you think there can be something deeper involved?
Share yours please 🙏🏽
