23/10/2025
Hello, please post me as anonymous!
I am a 33 year old woman and my partner is 28 years old. We have been together for almost 3 years now. Life was beginning to get tough for me when we met. I had just gotten out a relationship where I was cheated like no one’s business and just lost my job. Well things were smooth with this new person I met. He would help me out financially, he would spoil me and even help me come up with ideas of how I can make money while I continue to job hunt. We have had our fair share of good memories and moments together, shared good laughs and sometimes him being just physically present was just enough for me.
This guy was someone who was so calm, loving, handsome, cheerful very honest, and loyal. It was my first time being with a guy like him based on how things in my past life were like. In the beginning I found all of that attractive but as time went on I don’t know what happened.
I knew a lot of girls wanted him (my friends too) and he could reject them. He would tell me so and so tried their luck on me and I said no or I gave them your number. I would get those messages from the different girls and I would laugh at them. I on the other hand was not really like that. I think having such a past whereby I was taken for a ride kind of clouded my judgement and thinking. I started to feel like this guy is just too loyal and transparent for my liking, he doesn’t cheat, he is mostly home and his phone barely rings unless it’s the boys.
So it happened that he lost his job and we tried to navigate through life together. I could tell his was stressed out about providing for us after life began to really deteriorate. I did what any other woman would do, I called in favors so that I assist him with bills and things. I ended up having to flirt with other men, reach out to some from my past just so that I could do all this.
I kind of detached from my boyfriend because of the attention I was getting from the other men. I met up with them in his absence and in as much as I tried to hide it, he picked a change in me. I know what I did, he has never caught me but I am guilty for most of the things he accused me of. I denied myself but somehow he just knew most things I was up to.
He ended this with me last night. He packed his stuff and left. Guys, I love this guy so much but he can never find out the truth. What should I do to reconcile with him?
Sometimes we pray for the good ones and we are the very same people that mess things up.