Mind Ninja

01/06/2021

16/11/2020

One of the biggest barriers to self development and sustainable change is the offence it causes those close to us, especially those who profit from our lack of self worth.

We are conditioned to suffer the pain of stagnation and endure the self harm of outdated habits rather than deal with discomfort of disrupting relationships or conditions that no longer serve our better mental health.

No relationship is ever worth sacrificing your mental health, yet we see this everyday.

Listen out for those who don't clap when you win and shame you for wanting more, often it comes from those that claim to 'love" us the most.

No one who does more than you will ever shame you for wanting to be more. Go find these people because we all need a fu***ng cheersquad when breaking away from old toxic habits and co-dependent relationships!

12/10/2020

Having beliefs is the cornerstone of being human and the essential in the creation of our identity.

However, holding onto our beliefs long after they have served us is the definition of suffering.

When we enter prolonged suffering the process of change can feel insurmountable. We then double down on our beliefs because we need to justify our actions. This process is what leads to depression and the dark loop that many find themselves in.

Letting go of what no longer serves you when it feels like your only friend is one of the bravest things you can do and almost impossible to do on your own.

You need to ask for help.

Ask for help. Sit in front of someone.Tell your story. Have them listen intently, have them accept you fully. Take your time. Once you've accepted yourself, then you can say goodbye to 'old mate' and allow the new 'you' to arrive. ❤

06/10/2020

When we feel betrayed we are coming from a place of expectation on how we believe we should of be treated, without setting the appropriate personal example.

Being cheated on, stolen from, spoke
poorly of by those you thought cared for you are all examples of betrayal.

Instead of blaming the other person, which is far easier to do and requires no effort, try asking this question instead:

"What standard did I repeatedly set to allow this person to believe that they could treat me in this way?"

Most of us are unwilling to acknowledge that betrayal comes from the low standard we set for ourselves and is often self inflicted.

Remember, over-extending for others to avoid the responsibility of your own needs is the key ingredient in betrayal.

You cannot be betrayed if you are willing to take responsibility for, and engage in all areas of your life.

What's done to you is often a result of how feel about yourself, however, this framework is far more painful to look at. This is the framework of a leader

14/09/2020

Body language is less about how you speak to others non verbally and more how you subconsciously feel about to yourself via your actions.

90% of all communication is non verbal and subconscious, therefore, if you want to change your mind you simply must move your body in a positive way.

Consistent, positive body movements over time speak to your mind more than your mind ever can. This will in turn speak to others on how you should be treated!

24/08/2020

"No relationship is worth your mental health being ruined, especially the one with yourself"

We are taught to give to others without any consideration for ourselves. We look for what we need externally in the hopes that someone else will tell us we're good enough. Being good enough can only ever come from you, only by making youself a priority can you hope to give genuinely and love authentically.

Regular psychotherapy helps you become comfortable with being the focal point, addressing the ways in which you avoid yourself and bringing you home so you never abandon yourself again

17/08/2020

"If you cannot take care of the part that wants to run away, you'll never learn how to run towards what you were born to do"

Humans are naturally programmed to design habits that seek to avoid discomfort, distress & pain. We run away, we dissociate, we distract, we self medicate and in the most severe cases we may consider su***de as an option. Conversely, we are creatures that need adversity, hardship and friction in order to feel alive, evolve and to keep growing as no real change comes without discomfort. This is fundamental dichotomy of being human

Most humans will crumble under heavy stress because we have spent our entire lives avoiding this feeling. We all need a controlled space in our lives that pushes us towards stress and shows us how turn down the white noise down in real time. Under peak stress you find your true baseline, who you really are and what is really guiding your desicion making.

Making yourself deliberately uncomfortable consistently through mediums such as martial arts, counselling, yoga, etc, exposes your limits, shows you where your coping mechanisms fall apart and highlights what really needs taking care of.

14/08/2020

"Those who are well put together are not self made".

We're taught that asking for help is a sign of weakness, actually, it's the complete opposite.

Asking for help, confronting your self, working on a way through and out of your poor mental health routine is one of the most courageous things anyone can do.

It never "is what it is" and you never "are who you are" until you decide its so, We're all capable of change, we all deserve hope and you absolutely deserve to ask for help.

We, the light workers, are here and we're ready to guide you to your light. Your light pays it forward so that others can shine theirs. ❤

10/08/2020

When times are hard and we feel like were metaphorically bleeding, we seek the path of least resistance. We want to contract and conserve and we usually sacrifice self care and mental health in order to address other priorities

If you find yourself negotiating your way out of your self care routine, (something that many of us do daily), please understand you're also driving down the price of your self worth.

In times of peak stress and crisis, your self worth, a by product of your self care, determines how well you navigate the storm and get back to balance.

19/05/2020

If ' the truth' were real there would be no such thing as change. Be mindful of when you convince yourself you're telling the truth, your health depends on it. Solomon X

10/04/2020

If courage was a photo, this would be it!!

Our Mind Ninja warrior allowed me to post her 3 self care non negotiables in the hope it will offer some light and hope to those who are suffering in silence and feel there is no escape from the cycle of abuse.

These non negoatibles were created days after her latest and absolute last abusive episode. Written from her safe house as a contract to herself to never go back to that place terror and worthlessness ever again!

I hope she gives you the courage to lift your chin, steel your resolve, fight away the shame of asking for help so you or someone love can break the cycle. ❤