Standup Speakout

Standup Speakout Just an ordinary woman searching for an ordinary life…
until the wrong love and ignored red flags turned her world upside down. Now turning pain into purpose.

Raising awareness. Helping others. Silence enables violence. Our voices are our superpower. When you are a victim of Domestic Violence, poverty is one of the greatest issues victims struggle to overcome. If they have young children it can be extremely difficult to navigate the workforce and care for children. Government benefits still keep a victim on the poverty line with housing, food, clothing

and living expenses. Coercive Control and post Separation abuse are a large part of a victim trying to escape their former partners. Financial Abuse by their former partner can be a huge problem for a victim and a means of control and revenge a ex partner holds over their victim as punishment and revenge. Long Family Court Battles with not enough assistance from Legal Aid and the Child Support Agency having immense trouble with getting appropriate child maintenance from the parent that earns the highest amount of money for the victim causes a lot of problems. Then there is the mental health of the victim and children who will be highly likely suffering with trauma such as anxiety, depression and Post Traumatic Syndrome. They will need help from the medical facility with Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Paediatrician and General Medical Doctors. Some practices will bulk bill but others will ask for full payment and you will only receive a Medicare Rebate back which can cost a victim who is already struggling financially. The Public System is completely overrun for victims, and victims can face a 6 to 12 month wait to seek help for a significant health issue to help them with moving forward. No Parent should ever have to take a child or teenager who is suicidal to the Paediatric Emergency Department to be triaged as non urgent and placed behind other patients that are suffering with other illnesses. Then be placed in a extremely busy and uncomfortable waiting room with their anxiety peaking. As the hours tick by and they are ignored often a parent will just take their child home again and try the following day or call an Ambulance if it's an emergency. If you don't have Ambulance Cover watch out for the over $1000 dollar medical bill that will arrive in the post weeks later with expectations of it to be paid. We live in a world now that is becoming very untrustworthy with scammers increasingly hacking into the internet and social media accounts. People are also forgetting how to communicate face to face and spend so much time invested in their phones that they don't actually look up and see what is around them and instead of helping others they look down on them, judge them and criticise them from ignorance and not having to walk in their shoes. We need to change this and bring back some old fashioned morals in this modern world that made life so much easier, carefree and generally a more happy place to live in. We can all help with that movement. Just Random Acts Of Kindness and Paying It Forward. We have lost so many Humanitarians that were making a difference. Nelson Mandela. Mother Theresa and Princess Dianna. In closing i wish to share this quote from the late Princess Dianna "Carry out a random act of kindness with No expectation of reward Safe in the Knowledge that One Day Someone might do the same For You" - Dianna, Princess Of Wales

🤣🤣 This Is True 🤪🧠💥 -Sometimes I Genuinely Do Wonder How My Partner Does It! But I'm So Lucky And Grateful He Does ❤️❤️ ...
25/06/2026

🤣🤣 This Is True 🤪🧠💥 -

Sometimes I Genuinely Do Wonder How My Partner Does It!

But I'm So Lucky And Grateful He Does ❤️❤️








   🚩 Oh YES They Can!
25/06/2026



🚩 Oh YES They Can!






   🚩April 21st  2021 South Australia's Hearts Absolutely Shattered 💔 When The Horrific News Broke That A Father Had Kill...
24/06/2026



🚩April 21st 2021 South Australia's Hearts Absolutely Shattered 💔 When The Horrific News Broke That A Father Had Killed His 9 Month Old Daughter In A Murder Su***de At The Whispering Wall , In Barossa Valley

🚫 5 years later, Acting Deputy State Coroner Judge Ian White has handed down his findings and has been scathing of Protective Systems stating the 9 month old's death could have been preventable 🚫

🚩 In published findings handed down today, Judge Ian White, acting deputy state coroner, said a "series of fundamental errors" had led to Kobi's death, including a police risk assessment that "never reflected the true danger" she and her mother faced.

🚩The inquest had heard Shepherdson had been abusive towards Kobi's mother over several months, and was arrested for domestic violence offences in December 2020.

🚩While he was in custody on remand, Shepherdson was "able to engage in extremely manipulative and coercive behaviour" during 149 recorded prison phone calls to Kobi's Mother.

🚩Judge White said Shepherdson's behaviour during those "relentless" calls had continued "unchecked for months" and was "pivotal" to his ability to have criminal charges, including threatening to kill Kobi and her mother, dropped.

🚩"I was extremely disappointed by the submissions on behalf of the Commissioner of Police, both in writing and orally, that Kobi's mother could have simply refused to answer calls from him," Judge White said.

🚩"I challenged these submissions in court as being totally inappropriate considering what was heard in these samples of calls."

🚩He said Shepherdson had a "very poor reaction" when his calls went unanswered and "always demanded an explanation".

🚩"It should not be forgotten that he was a dangerous man with a bad criminal record who had a constant focus on Kobi's mother doing everything for his own selfish benefit," Judge White said.

🚩 "She was highly damaged by his treatment of her, whether in custody or not. He exploited her willingness to be generous to him despite all he had done to her, including threatening to kill her."

🚩Judge White said the "significant errors" made by SA Police and the Department for Correctional Services "cannot be ignored".

🚩He said that, if SA Police had deemed Kobi and her mother "high risk", then a "myriad of opportunities would have opened up for her to consider, thereby enhancing the chances for her to more meaningfully engage" with a multi-agency protection service.

🚩Had this been done, then many different procedures and protocols would have been enacted by SAPOL to include other government agencies so that his illegal and manipulative behaviour would have had a significantly higher chance of being detected and prosecuted successfully," Judge White said.

🚩In his findings, Judge White acknowledged that Kobi's death was "an upsetting and terrible shortening of her life", which "can and did evoke strong emotions".

🚩He extended his condolences to Kobi's mother and family, noting his findings might cause them distress.

🚩He said they were deliberately detailed to "give a clear insight to South Australians of the insidious problem of domestic violence and the often-silent suffering of domestic violence victims".

🚫"This was a difficult, harrowing examination in detail of a mother and child being subject to domestic violence and coercion by a manipulative, self-absorbed and dangerous man that resulted in Kobi's murder," he said.🚫

🚩Judge White directed his recommendations at the Premier Peter Malinauskas and attorney-general, as former State Coroner Mark Johns did in 2014 for the inquest into the death of domestic violence murder victim Zahra Abrahimzadeh.

🚩Judge White recommended that the use of the prisoner telephone service for people remanded in custody be "reviewed to concentrate on strategies and methods to prevent protected persons and alleged or proven victims of domestic violence from being contacted illegally via that service".

🚩Other recommendations included adopting several of those made in the recent Royal Commission into Domestic, Family and Sexual Violence.

🚩"It is sincerely hoped that the recommendations of the royal commission can cause substantial assistance to those in the position of Kobi and Kobi's mother to ensure their safety and to prevent harm or another death to a domestic violence victim," Judge White said.

🚩Judge White also made a recommendation to SA Water to "improve the safety aspects of the dam of the Whispering Wall" in order to further prevent similar deaths, but noted this had "been substantially addressed already".

🚩Attorney-General Kyam Maher said the coroner's report made difficult and "horrific" reading.

🚩"It is a wake-up call and a call to action which we will heed," he said.

🚩"As the coroner’s report lays bare, there were failings and what we should do as a government is take heed of any failings whether they’re procedures and policies in departments or legislative changes and that’s the best thing we can do to honour Kobi’s memory, is to make those changes, to take coroner’s report seriously and to look at what we do better."

🚩When asked whether the family deserves an apology, Mr Maher said: "I don’t think anyone would feel anything other than regret for what’s happened and personally and I think as a government, we are very sorry that what’s happened to Kobi’s family has happened and we need to do things better."

🚩In a statement, an SA Police spokesperson said it is assessing the recommendations made in the inquest findings.

🚩"SAPOL is working collaboratively with partner agencies to synchronise and effectively implement the recommendations of the Royal Commission," they said.

🚩Public Service Association general secretary Charlotte Watson said the findings raised serious questions about correctional services and its role in protecting the community.

🚩"The findings demonstrate the critical role remand centres and prisons play within the justice system in identifying risk, delivering intervention programs, reducing reoffending and protecting the broader community, and that these essential public services should remain in public hands," Ms Watson said.

🚩"No mother should ever have to experience the loss of a child in these circumstances, and our sincere condolences remain with Kobi's family as they continue to live with the consequences of this tragedy."

⬇️ Article References ⬇️

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2026-06-24/inquest-finding-baby-death-at-whispering-wall/106835388?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other

https://www.news.com.au/national/south-australia/chilling-final-words-of-dad-who-killed-himself-and-daughter-at-whispering-wall-revealed/news-story/ad71404d12e30f4c859c08400cea5823

   🚩 This is 34 year old Jacinta Ann Drust of Adelaide 🚩 She has just been charged with Murder of her 51 year old Partne...
24/06/2026



🚩 This is 34 year old Jacinta Ann Drust of Adelaide

🚩 She has just been charged with Murder of her 51 year old Partner Antonio Cavaiuolo who died in March 2023

🚩 Initially her charges were Manslaughter but on Tuesday , Prosecutors in the Adelaide Magistrate Court upgraded their case against Jacinta Ann Drust to the most serious charge under state law.

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🚫 CCTV vision obtained from inside Antonio Cavaiuolo's showed showed Ms Drust engaging in “abusive, controlling and threatening” behaviour toward Mr Cavaiuolo “in the weeks leading up” to his death.

🚫 Previously, prosecutors alleged Ms Drust and Mr Cavaiuolo had been engaged since 2022, after which he “lost his job, lost weight and appeared fearful”.

🚫 After 2 Su***de Attempts , the CCTV showed Drust "kicking" and "stomping" the victim, "screaming abuse at him" and "telling him to end his own life".

🚩"She repeatedly told him to 'do it', calling him a coward and threatening to do it herself,"

🚩 On the day of Antonio's death , drust is again verbally abusive … she made belittling comments and verbally abused him over a period of about seven minutes — and he took his life within 25 minutes of her leaving the address.

🚫 That offence carries a potential maximum sentence of life, but has no minimum non-parole period.

🚩 Drust is on Home Dentention Bail and returns to Court in August.

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🚩 THIS CASE HIGHLIGHTS SOMETHING WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MORE 🚩

🚩Far too often I hear Men speak about experiencing coercive control, emotional abuse, psychological abuse and manipulation within relationships. Many say they never report it, never seek help, and never tell anyone what is happening because they are afraid they won't be believed, will be laughed at, or will be blamed for their own abuse.

🚩No victim should feel that way.

🚩 Domestic violence is not a gender war. Abuse is abuse, regardless of whether the victim is a man or a woman.

🚩 ALL VICTIMS deserve support, protection and to be believed when they come forward.

🚩Equality means recognising all victims, listening to all victims, and ensuring that everyone has access to support without fear of judgment or dismissal.

If we truly want to address Domestic Violence in Australia, we cannot afford to ignore any victim simply because of their gender.

🚩Every victim matters. Every life matters. Every death matters.

💜 Sending Love and Support to the Family and Friends of Antonio Cavaiuolo. May you recieve justice for his life taken.

⬇️ Article References ⬇️

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-12-24/jacinta-drust-accused-encourage-suicide-granted-bail/106176852?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other

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24/06/2026

Missing My Daily Cuddles And Kisses. Can't Wait Until Winter Is Over And Both My Lizards Are Back To Their Happy, Mischevous, Active Selves.






My Brain 🧠💥 is clearly FU**ED! because I see a Goat...
23/06/2026

My Brain 🧠💥 is clearly FU**ED! because I see a Goat...

 💔 I worry sometimes...I'm not going to have enough years left to build something good with all the constant set backs  ...
23/06/2026



💔 I worry sometimes...I'm not going to have enough years left to build something good with all the constant set backs







When The Dr Asks, "Where Does It Hurt?"
23/06/2026

When The Dr Asks, "Where Does It Hurt?"







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23/06/2026

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1. COMPLEX PTSD (C-PTSD)
Chronic emotional trauma can leave the nervous system trapped in survival mode.

2. ANXIETY DISORDERS
Constant unpredictability, criticism, and fear can overwhelm the mind and body.

3. PANIC DISORDER
Years of emotional stress may trigger recurring panic attacks.

4. DEPRESSION
Hopelessness, sadness, emotional numbness, and despair often develop over time.

5. INSOMNIA
Hypervigilance and chronic stress can make restful sleep difficult.

6. CHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME
Long-term emotional exhaustion may contribute to persistent fatigue and low energy.

7. AUTOIMMUNE CONDITIONS
Chronic stress is associated with worsening symptoms in several autoimmune disorders.

8. IRRITABLE BOWEL SYNDROME (IBS)
The gut and brain are closely connected, making stress a common trigger.

9. MIGRAINES AND CHRONIC HEADACHES
Ongoing tension and stress can contribute to frequent headaches.

10. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
Prolonged stress may increase the risk of cardiovascular problems.

11. HEALTH ANXIETY
Many survivors become hyperfocused on physical symptoms and illness.

12. DISSOCIATION
Some people mentally disconnect from emotions, memories, or surroundings to cope.

13. BRAIN FOG
Difficulty concentrating, remembering information, and making decisions is common.

14. FIBROMYALGIA-LIKE SYMPTOMS
Chronic pain, tenderness, and widespread body discomfort may develop in some survivors.

15. STRESS-RELATED IMMUNE DYSFUNCTION
The body's ability to regulate inflammation and fight illness may become impaired.

IMPORTANT:
Narcissistic abuse does not directly cause every illness listed above. However, prolonged emotional abuse, chronic stress, trauma, and living in survival mode are associated with increased risks for both physical and mental health problems.

The abuse may be invisible.

The damage to the mind and body often is not.

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